Post # 1
We’ve been engaged for 3 weeks and we haven’t really told anyone. He told his dad and I told my dad and that’s all. Let me explain- so he proposed on a Friday, we were going to bask in the engagement glory for the weekend before telling people. Then, after wearing it I decided it was a little too bulky for me and I was nervous because i’m a total klutz, so i asked if we could switch out the band/setting for something smaller. He said ok and we took the ring to jeweler on Tuesday, so after that we didn’t tell anyone because we didn’t have a ring to show anymore. At this point, I probably won’t have my new ring for another 3 weeks 🙁 Now, I really want to show everyone my ring; announcing the engagement seems empty without it, is that wrong? I don’t feel engaged 🙁 Should I just tell people even though it looks like a fake engagement?
Post # 2
A ring is not a necessity to being engaged. Honestly, almost no one we told even asked about the ring and if they do you can just say it’s at the shop right now. No one’s going to think it’s a fake engagement just because you don’t have the ring on your finger.
Post # 3
Should I just tell people even though it looks like a fake engagement?
… what does that even mean? What is a “fake engagement”?
Tell everyone you feel like telling. If they ask about the ring, tell them it’s at the jeweler’s being resized (which is technically true). Don’t hide your joy!
Post # 4
Thanks ladies! that’s true. I wrote fake engagement just because I know some people in my family’s circle are 100% gossipy. guess i’m just being crazy and overthinking everything 🙁
Post # 5
At this point I think you should just wait until you get a ring back. I assume it will be soon and that way you won’t have to feel weird or explain where your ring is because everyone will likely want to see it.
Post # 6
- Wedding: October 2018 - Inn On Broadway
My fiancé and I are engaged and we’re getting my ring this summer. When we tell people we’re engaged no one even asks about a ring and if someone does, I tell them the jeweler is making it (which he is). Don’t feel ashamed to be excited and tell people about your engagement, ring or not! 🙂🙂
Post # 7
I personally would wait, or maybe you can get a stand-in ring while you’re waiting for yours? I bought a ring from Berricle that I wear on vacations for like $30, or even just a ring from a local store that would make you feel more “engaged” while you wait for yours?
Post # 8
oh that’s a great idea. i will check that out, thanks!
Post # 9
I actually was in the same position — we “got engaged” in terms of starting to plan the wedding, but my Fiance didn’t want me to tell anyone til we had the ring. (We didn’t even tell our parents, which drove me insane with the planning, because I didn’t know if/how much they would be able to chip in, so I didn’t know what to budget.)
I would suggest telling your family/friends now if you want to (as others have said, no such thing as a “fake engagement”!), and then saving the social media announcement for when you have the ring so you can include a ring shot. That way you don’t have to sit on it, but also still get to make an announcement with the ring. 🙂
Post # 10
Breath and wait until you have the ring. Your joy will be all the greater. Until then keep it as your little secret and have fun about the clandestine plan of the big unveiling.
Post # 11
My Fiance and I got engaged without a ring and in the six months since we a announced our engagement, literally the only person who asked me about a ring was my sister. (Similarly, only two people have asked how we got engaged.) No one else cares abour these things as much as the couple and maybe their families.