Am i totally crazy?

posted 3 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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9786 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

A ring is not a necessity to being engaged. Honestly, almost no one we told even asked about the ring and if they do you can just say it’s at the shop right now. No one’s going to think it’s a fake engagement just because you don’t have the ring on your finger.

Post # 3
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160 posts
Blushing bee

Should I just tell people even though it looks like a fake engagement?

… what does that even mean? What is a “fake engagement”?

 

Tell everyone you feel like telling. If they ask about the ring, tell them it’s at the jeweler’s being resized (which is technically true). Don’t hide your joy!

Post # 5
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672 posts
Busy bee

At this point I think you should just wait until you get a ring back. I assume it will be soon and that way you won’t have to feel weird or explain where your ring is because everyone will likely want to see it. 

Post # 6
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124 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018 - Inn On Broadway

My fiancé and I are engaged and we’re getting my ring this summer. When we tell people we’re engaged no one even asks about a ring and if someone does, I tell them the jeweler is making it (which he is). Don’t feel ashamed to be excited and tell people about your engagement, ring or not! 🙂🙂

Post # 7
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81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I personally would wait, or maybe you can get a stand-in ring while you’re waiting for yours? I bought a ring from Berricle that I wear on vacations for like $30, or even just a ring from a local store that would make you feel more “engaged” while you wait for yours? 

Post # 9
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I actually was in the same position — we “got engaged” in terms of starting to plan the wedding, but my Fiance didn’t want me to tell anyone til we had the ring.  (We didn’t even tell our parents, which drove me insane with the planning, because I didn’t know if/how much they would be able to chip in, so I didn’t know what to budget.)

I would suggest telling your family/friends now if you want to (as others have said, no such thing as a “fake engagement”!), and then saving the social media announcement for when you have the ring so you can include a ring shot.  That way you don’t have to sit on it, but also still get to make an announcement with the ring. 🙂

Post # 10
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56 posts
Worker bee

Breath and wait until you have the ring. Your joy will be all the greater. Until then keep it as your little secret and have fun about the clandestine plan of the big unveiling.

Post # 11
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688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

My Fiance and I got engaged without a ring and in the six months since we a announced our engagement, literally the only person who asked me about a ring was my sister. (Similarly, only two people have asked how we got engaged.) No one else cares abour these things as much as the couple and maybe their families. 

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