- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016 - Ed Oliver Golf Club, Wilmington, DE
Hey Bees! I haven’t posted much here, a slight intro first, I have been with my SO for 6.5 years and I am still a waiting bee! (Soon, fingers crossed). We are still young, only 22 (high school sweethearts). My SO is the sweetest, most generous, and most respectful person I know, he still holds doors for everyone, opens car doors, thinks that he should always make sure a lady is treated as a lady (this becomes slightly annoying when he pays for everyone of my friends at dinner ) He is just great & my best friend. Honestly, we only have one little problem in our lives…his family! I just want some outside opinions..
He is one of 5 kids..and they are all problematic in their own ways. His one brother is much older than us, doesn’t work, doesn’t attend school, doesn’t do much of anything and is in extensive debt, and treats his parents like crap, and the parents constantly bail him out. His sister does attend school & work, but generally takes advantage of everyone in the household as much as possible. The parents have bent over backwards to make her and her daughter comfortable. His one brother is fine, he has messed up a ton in the past, but he is on the right path now. His other sister is younger than us, but she takes advantage of the parents every chance she gets, money or otherwise. These people are in so much debt because of everything their kids have taken from them.
YET…we are the people who constantly get the short end of the stick, they will never defend my SO, they won’t ever let him get away with anything, he could be 5 minutes late and it’s the end of the world. His mother is constantly texting us to remind of us what she needs us to do for her, right this instant. She wants him at her beck & call to fix everything, help the neighbors, babysit, etc. He has never used their money, other than living in their household, which all of the kids still do.(and he generally eats with me). They treat him like dirt and actually owe him thousands of dollars that they took from his account as a minor to bail out his siblings.
Am I wrong that I am encouraging him to get out of the house and only visit once a week? I think that this family is toxic for him and I hate to see him treated this way!
Sorry, I rambled so much, I’m just so frustrated!!!