(Closed) Am I totally wrong? HELP before I piss off my FBIL

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

In situations like this, I think it is always better to be gracious on the outside even if you are seething on the inside.  If you confront your Future Brother-In-Law and proclaim this “your week”, all anyone is going to remember is you making a scene and being a bridezilla.  However, if you have a beautiful wedding and are a gracious bride and congratulate the happy couple, people will always remember your lovely wedding long after the post-it marriage has bitten the dust.

 

Grin and bear it takes on a whole new meaning when you’re getting married, right?  Best of luck, don’t let it drive you crazy!  You’re getting married to the love of your life, and no one can take away from that!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2011

its a facebook picture. get over it and enjoy your wedding week!

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2012

i totally think that you deserve to be upset. BUT like you said this couple obviously is super immature and are drama queens. I do think that it is YOUR special day though and nobody will be paying attention to them when it really counts. Also, if you think about it.. they’ll actually be receiving “laughing-stock” attention (since they’re so crazy and there’s not even a ring on her finger or anything!) vs. good attention (which you will be getting). Good luck to you. You’re an angel for putting up with that.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee

Honestly, I don’t see what the big deal is. So what if they are on again and off again? So what if they post their love/affection on your wedding week? That to me does not take away from your wedding. If they had gotten married this week, then I could see anyone getting upset, but getting upset over their status on fb? That seemed childish to me. You have a wedding to plan, focus on that and don’t log on fb if that bothers you.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

You have wayyyyy more/better things to worry about this week than this. It’s facebook just let it go. It’s “roll your eyes” worthy but don’t flip your stuff about it cause it’s not worth it AT ALL.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Sorry, but I think you are over reacting.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You’re having one of those moments we all have at some point or another (you’re a liar if you say you haven’t!). You should feel irritated… lol, I would, but now that you’ve vented I’m sure you’ll feel better. Don’t feel ridic. You’ve got a lot on your plate and these two are clearly retarded… So just sit back and laugh at their drama and enjoy the upcoming event!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

I agree with Noritake22.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You have every right to be irritated and upset by this, as it sounds dramatic and annoying. But I don’t think you have any right to “put an end to it” or ask your FH to do so. If your Future Brother-In-Law and his girlfriend want to play house and call each other “hubby and wife” that’s their business. It may make they seem ridiculous, but it doesn’t sound harmful. They’re probably just jealous of you and your FH because you guys have a stronger relationship and you’re actually making it official with a real wedding as opposed to playing house. I say just take the high road and let them be. If they are really in a toxic relationship, as you’ve described, they will self-destruct soon enough without any help from you. Just focus on your wedding and don’t waste any energy on their antics. Good luck!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

i’m sorry, but first and foremost, you get a day. not a week.

that said, i do think you’re overreacting. you shouldn’t worry about a facebook picture or what your fbil is doing. its his life and he’ll have to deal with whatever consequences happen, not you. just spend your time focusing on getting married. the focus will still be on you and your fi because it’s your wedding day, not theirs. so just let it go and be happy.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I am sorry lady.  I think you should just ignore it and focus on enjoying your wedding next weekend.  From the sounds of things, they will be broken up in no time and it will not be worth the stress.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

tea said exactly what I was thinking. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I guess everyone else is entitled to have their own drama whenever they please, and they don’t have to schedule it around your wedding.  At the same time, if you know for sure that they’re creating this drama purposely on your wedding week, then you should just chalk it up to immature in-laws and do your best to brush it aside.  Don’t waste your energy stressing over them when you have plenty of other things to stress about this week.

Don’t worry, when it comes to your wedding day, you are the only person everyone will be thinking about!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

They’ve been in a relationship for years and you think that they don’t like each other and are only together because of your wedding?  🙂  I think it’s possible they are a bit more into each other than that. 

Seriously, them using the actual words wife and marriage might well be related to you and FH getting married and thus putting the topic on their minds but it has nothing to do with your wedding!  It isn’t taking any attention away from you.  No one cares what they put on their facebook in relation to your wedding.  I mean, your Future Mother-In-Law isn’t thinking of your wedding 24/7 but she is thinking about it a lot I bet and your Future Brother-In-Law lovey doveyness isn’t taking anything from her attention on  your wedding.  The only thing that I can imagine taking attention away would be if Future Brother-In-Law and his gf broke up loudly so you should be happy they are getting along.  🙂

Good luck and focus on your day!

 

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