(Closed) Am I totally wrong? HELP before I piss off my FBIL

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

there is nothing you can really do about this.  Just ignore it and enjoy your wedding.

Post # 18
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

If something of this small tiny magnitude could take away anything from your wedding date, then, gosh, I don’t know what to say – that’s just sad. Your wedding is the day you marry the man you love most in the world. No one. No batshit drama. Regardless of how crazy you think it is. Could EVER take away from that.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m sorry that FBIL’s girl is being such a witch, but at this point you just need to see it as what it was to most people that saw it…a joke. It was done in poor taste as it was simply to make you PO’d, but that’s exactly why you should let it go. She’s just jealous that your relationship is working and hers is horrible.

Post # 21
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I’m sorry thats she doing that, sounds like shes a self absorbed drama queen… she is def. doing this to get under your skin and is obvilously jealous of the fact that your getting married. dont let it get to you girl, its your day and everyone will be concentrating on that. and in a couple weeks, people wil realize that shes not married and they will realize that she did it bc shes  immature… she wl look like a fool. dont stress about it, and have a AWESOME wedding!

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Facebook and Myspace ruins relationships..

I would be mad too, but you know deep down that it’s all Bull Sh** so the hell with them

I would enjoy my day and not give into their little game. You have better things to worry about I would hope

Post # 22
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Facebook and Myspace ruins relationships..

I would be mad too, but you know deep down that it’s all Bull Sh** so the hell with them

I would enjoy my day and not give into their little game. You have better things to worry about I would hope

Post # 23
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Newbee

I would be annoyed too, but it does sound like they’re very immature, which explains a lot. I’ve learned that it’s always better to be the bigger person in petty situations like this (their pettiness) as you’ll come out looking classy and they will not. Plus, they are soooooo going to break up – again. I also tend to think that maybe Future Mother-In-Law feels the need to over exaggerate with your Future Brother-In-Law because based on your post, it seems that he does not have his life as together as you do. Maybe she is insecure about his lack of maturity and it’s her way of convincing herself that he is more grown up than he actually is.

Also, you did not say that they were together because of your wedding, but you did say that you KNOW that they are doing this because of your wedding. To me that’s pretty close to the same thing. 

As far as it being very clear why you do not post on here, do you mean that sarcastically? I’m just wondering because you did ask for honest answers, and 99% of the responses were positive and supportive, clearly stating that you probably have better things to worry about and you should try to forget it and enjoy YOUR and your husbands very special day. 

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I think that the wedding stress is starting to get to you and some things that would irritate you slightly beforehand is now getting a little blown out of proportion. I dont think you are being crazy…your FBIL’s girlfriend may be…but that is not what you should be worrying about right now IMO. Just concentrate on your wedding stuff and dont worry about others and whats going on around you.

 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

All I have to say is to brush this off and move on because while it is annoying I am sure you have other things to worry about than buy into thier petty behavior.

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Tag yourself in it! Then it can be about you! lol sorry that might be a stupid idea but for some reason it was the first thing I thought of doing. Good luck though! =)Dont worry everyone but your Future Mother-In-Law is probably not so excited about their relationship.

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I understand how you would be upset but I think you should just breathe. While as a bride I totally understand the “it’s my week” your wedding is only 1 (2 if Future Brother-In-Law is in it) day for them. Unless they make a huge deal out of their “post it ceremony” at your wedding or reception I would have to say let it slide. If you are worried they will make a production at your wedding and take the focus off of you and your Fiance then tell Fiance your fears, that it’s your day and you’ve waited so long and don’t want them stealing your thunder. Maybe he’ll say something to Future Brother-In-Law or you can ask him to.

So sorry this is happening but right now just focus on your big day and finally getting to marry the love of your life!

Post # 28
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sorry to hear about all the drama.

Best thing you can do is ignore it, and act as graceful as possible.  Everyone seeing you in your dress will pull back the focus really quickly.

Enjoy your week!

Post # 29
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Helper bee

As soon as your day comes, no one will remember about your Future Brother-In-Law and their rediculous attempt to get attention. Just enjoy your day and don’t let them upset you. If they did this because of your wedding then don’t let them win by getting upset and angry. Good luck girl!

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

“And I just had a clear reminder as to WHY I dont bother to post on here anymore.”

 

& I think we just got a clear reminder why you shouldn’t post here anymore. It says in the title of this post “Am I Totally Wrong?” That’s a question. & I think you got your answer even if you don’t like it. Sorry. I agree it’s probably irritating & annoying but its FB; you should just roll your eyes @ it & get on with with your wedding Day.

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