(Closed) Am I upstaging the bride in wearing this?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
2452 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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bluesparkles:  do you know what the bride is wearing? I believe it’s custom for the bride to wear red in India (correct me if I’m wrong!!) so I don’t necessarily think the ivory/gold colors would be inappropriate but is it more of a rose/blush or a red accent color? The picture looks red to me and that may be considered inappropriate for this wedding. Either way I think it’s beautiful. Have you seen what other guests are wearing? Is your outfit comparable or way more extravagent than theirs?

Post # 3
3756 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

It’s hard for me to judge this type of fashion. If I were in your situation, I would contact the bride and find out what colour she was wearing. (ex: one indian friend wore hot pink to her wedding, another wore deep green). So long as it isn’t the same colour, you’re good to go. You’re allowed to look absolutly gorgeous at someone elses wedding!

Post # 4
2769 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

It is very pretty! Is the bridge going to be wearing a sari as well? Wedding saris are usually red and gold, right? Is there any chance this bride may wear something in a similar shade? If the answer is yes, I would exchange it. If the answer is no, or she is wearing a western style dress, you should be fine with that!

Post # 5
8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

1. I have no idea what is considered more or less fancy when it comes to Sari fashions.  Sorry.  I also don’t know how acceptable it is to go blinged out to someone elses wedding.

2. That said, if you can’t get an answer from someone who is familiar with indian wedding traditions… go with this age old piece of advice: If you have to ask, it’s probably a bad idea.

Post # 6
121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

what is the bride wearing? 

Post # 9
42 posts

pretty! that sari is totally fine to wear!! i’m indian and the bride would wear a much heavier/beaded sari or lehgna. she’ll probably wear a combo of red, green and white. 

  • This reply was modified 6 years, 1 month ago by milobabyy.
Post # 10
1348 posts
Bumble bee

I would send the photo to the groom and ask him to show it to his bride to get her opinion (since you said you’re friends with him). Just tell him everything you told us!

I’m sure she won’t mind and will appreciate the effort 🙂

Post # 11
335 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

If the bride is wearing red, I’d suggest another color besides pink. That’s like a wedding guet wearing ivory or creamy beige to a wedding where the bride is wearing white. Don’t be THAT person.  Find out what color she’s wearing to be polite.

Post # 13
782 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think red is the traditional color, and if the bride is wearing red, I think yours is too close. 

Post # 14
2865 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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bluesparkles:  it’s fine

Post # 15
778 posts
Busy bee

Nope! All colors are welcome at an indian wedding. Most brides these days wear a creamy and gold color combo. I have seen my cousins wear Green and Red and some wear all red and Gold. Some wear pink. It doesn’t matter what the guests wear, all colors and super fancy clothes are encouraged at desi weddings. Its a wedding, you are suppose to go all out 😀 You can wear the exact same colors as the bride too because you have no clue what the bride will be wearing, they chnage it up these days. 

I’ve been to several indian weddings and everyone wore their best suits of all colors. Many wore red, pink, cream colors. Doesn’t matter – you will always be able to see who the bride is since she will be blinged out the most. Enjoy the wedding, its a beautiful saree!

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