- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
Kudos for being organised. If you’re the super organised one I think you could get away with it in a self-deprecating ‘so ladies you know I might just be the obsessive planner… well, here’s the information I have so far. I needed it from friends/family to arrange my travel etc but thought I’d share it with you in case it’s any use. There’s ZERO pressure to make it to everything- hell I know you have a life beyond my wedding. Just humour my craziness and give me a shout if you need anything (or think I’ve totally lost the plot!)
i’m a planner so i would appreciate it. my girls actually asked for an itenerary so they knew what the heck was going on.
You know what if your quite like this anyway do it! Your friends would probably just laugh and say “typical ‘Kate'” lol
I would just prefer it in an email! A booklet is needlessly fussy. An email I can always pull up on my phone when I forget.
I appreciate effective, condensed communication over 25 separate emails so I would love to get all the info in one swoop early in the game.
I’m a big-time planner and at eighteen months out even I think it would be overkill plus no matter how well planned everything seems now something is bound to change over that time period–life happens.
When the date gets closer try to edit it down–at five pages you would run the risk of it landing in a stack to ‘look at later when there is more time.’ As a working mother I have to say that stack gets pretty big sometimes.
I may be in the minority, but I would really appreciate having this information in advance. I have a very non-flexible work schedule and if I want to take vacation, I need to request the dates a year ahead of time in many cases. I might prefer an informational email though, since I can always reference back to it in my inbox. I might lose a booklet.
I definitely do not think you’ve gone into bridezilla territory, you’re just being organized and thoughtful. I agree with a PP in saying that maybe a facebook group would be good for your bridal party? Might make it slightly easier in the long run in case there are any changes. A friend of mine did this for her bridal shower and it made our communication as bridesmaids a lot easier, and we appreciated having the dates/times to reference easily.
I think a couple people are being too hard on you right now. As a bridesmaid I enjoyed helping the bride plan and work on crafts. IDK–maybe I’m in the minority of people who like those kinds of things? It was nice quality time, and we often paired the work with fun stuff.
Also, I attended a destination bachelorette party and unbeknownst to me at the time I committed to it was that there was another option to attend a different party which was closer, more convenient and less expensive. Had I known of both options, for instance, presented in a guide, I would not have felt pressured to attend both, it just would have made my life a lot easier.
I also don’t understand the negativity from many other posters. I’m super excited when a friend gets engaged and you can bet your butt it’s also a special time for me too! I mean when it comes to forcing people to work on things or act as a vendor the day of, well that’s a no but many really really want to help and be involved.
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