(Closed) Am I verging on Bridezilla status?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 31
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

You know your girls better then we do. I would be fine with it. I like knowing really far in advance the events that I will be going to. 

But I could see other girls thinking you cray cray. 

Use your best judgement. 

Post # 32
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Blushing bee

You’re not being a bridezilla, you’re just on top of your game and organized. I definitely wouldn’t mind the all-in-one booklet, but since I (and probably most of your friends) are not as organized as you, I would appreciate it MUCH closer to the date, like a month or two before the information is necessary. Not because I’d think you’re insane, but simply because I promise you it wouldn’t be a week before I lose it.

The best way to send something so far in advance is via an often-used email, which can be searched for even if it were to get ‘misplaced.’

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This information in email form would be appreciated. In paper form it would likely be thrown out. 

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I think an email or Facebook group is best. Paper tends to get misplaced or thrown out, whereas electronic info can be accessed multiple times. Some BMs might be planners like you and put all the dates in their diary immediately, others might disregard it and check back closer to the dates. 

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

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lizstarlight22 :  if t were me I would appreciate it and think it’s awesome. But planning stuff is part of my job too and I’m also verging on Brodezilla status. 

Post # 36
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Worker bee

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lizstarlight22 :  you’re my spirit animal! I would loooooooove this but I’m a super organized, event planny, OCD type so this is right up my alley. ☺️

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

I’d find it irritating, but then if I was close enough to you to be a bridesmaid I think I’d be used to your behaviours

Post # 38
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

If I got this info in an email I’d appreciate it.  By mail, I’d side-eye it.  There’s something almost, I don’t know how to put it…ceremonial maybe, about getting something in the mail.  It implies a level of importance that would freak me out a little bit.  I’d be worried that you’re already devoting a massive amount of time to wedding planning and you’re likely to expect the same of me.

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper

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lizstarlight22 :  In all honesty, I’d probably laugh over it a bit with husband and then set it aside and expect to read it much, much later in time – and then lose it.  How on earth do you already have your special events scheduled, aside from the day and maybe rehearsal?  That’s kind of incredible.  At any rate, if you’re a good friend, they already know they don’t have to attend everything and the rest of that info isn’t going to matter for at least a year.  If you want your plan, great, but hang onto it for awhile.  Not bridezilla though, just unusual and early.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee

I’m a super organised person and I would find 5 pages of details over the top. Especially this far out from the wedding.

Post # 41
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Wannabee

I have a very unorganized group of people for my bridal party except 1. I’m planning on gifting them planners a few months before the wedding (one that runs from september-august cuz I have a January/February wedding planned) With little things like appointments to pick out bridesmaid dresses and hair and makeup trials and ceremony and rehersal information/accomidations written in it.

I’m doing the same thing for my sister who lives out of state so I can send her photos and get her input on those days and she will know its coming. 

I think a booklet a year and a half a head of schedule is a little over kill.

Post # 42
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Worker bee

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lizstarlight22 :  While I can appreciate the sentiment of your intentions, I think a 1 page list with very basic details is all you really need. Or start a facebook chat with all your girls and post the list in there so that you can keep the chat going and they can refer back to it when they need to. That way you don’t have to worry about anyone throwing away all your hard work! The fun, colourful info booklets etc can come later 🙂

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

If you send me a paper copy of anything, be it one page or 40 pages, I’m going to do one of two things. I’m either going to put it somewhere “safe” and then forget where safe is or I’m going to leave it out to get lost, dusty, torn and have drinks spilled on it. It’s over a year out so that booklet is not going to be useful to me in a years time.

If you send that information in a short email then I can search for it anytime I need it, which includes booking my holiday at work or booking my flight on my lunch break, rather than having to find my booklet at home and then take it to work or give myself a reminder to do it when I got home. I also really hate trying to specifically find something in a long email chain so keep the email to essential details. What are the dates of the big events (shower, bachelorette, rehearsal)? When is the earliest I can book my accommodation and what is the code for discounted rates if applicable? Then for all the fluffy stuff (craft parties and general chats) set up a group text/Facebook group. If you have those dates and want to send them out, do it in a separate email. That way the bridesmaids can search their emails for specific things.

Post # 44
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Helper bee

I agree with PPs – email it! I love how organised you are, and as a disorganised person I like when my planner best friend (who sounds a lot like you!) sets out details like that way in advance so I can’t double-book or get confused closer to the time.

However, email is SO much more practical. It means your girls can easily check back on their phones/on the go, rather than carrying your leaflet around for 18 months! 

Post # 45
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Honey Beekeeper

It’s inappropriate for you to be the one sending STD or any kind of info about parties in your own honor. This is true even if you are not hosting. That is up to either the host or organizer of each event or possibly your Maid/Matron of Honor, but only if she takes it upon herself voluntarily. 

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