- 7 years ago
Hello Bees newbee here!
i cant even believe i am finally making a post. i have been lurking non stop on this site. too scared to actually look at it on my laptop (i would freak out if SO saw) ive been lurking via iphone. i decided to finally post my situation hoping to get insight from all of you awesome bees. well here is my story…
I have been with my SO for about 2 and a half years. i’m 24, he is 32. we live together in a bustling urban city. we have a great relationship, he is my favorite person to be around and we can have fun doing absolutely nothing.
earlier this year i went with him on a trip to his hometown. i had already met some of his family over the years and he has met mine. the trip was amazing and i felt like i learned more about him and who is is as a person. anyway, since the trip he has expressed to me that he see’s US moving to his hometown in a couple of years. (his family lives there, he feels he needs to be around and help out, they have two family houses that he could inherit when need be) now where he is from is basically a paradise so i would be thrilled to live there. he never once said “Im gonna move, or i want to move” he always spoke as if it would be the two of us which made me very happy. Since the move is far away in the future we haven’t really talked about concrete details yet. i just let him know that of course when the time comes i would want to be where he is.
Up until monday, we had never had a “real” talk about marriage. he wants me to move with him, there have been hypothetical children,and i am always included in his future plans.but the M word has never been uttered. but on monday the cat was out of the bag! the other week he said something along the lines of “its between me and your father i am very old fashioned” we were kind of drunk so i shrugged it off, but it stayed in the back of my mind all weekend. So once the weekend wrapped up I had gone completely crazy trying to figure out if what he said was what he said. it was all i could think about.
So on monday I asked him straight out where he sees our relationship going and that I have been thinking lately and for me to be fully comfortable making the huge commitment to move with him to his hometown i hope that we would get engaged first. i almost threw up! i asked him if he has thought about it and how he feels. He tells me that of course he has thought about it and “his plan” was that he would wait about a year after we move to get engaged. he wants to make sure that I want to live there. So now he knows that I would like to be engaged before any relocating begins.
I feel better having talked about it, we havent talked about it since and I won’t bring it up again. he knows what I want now, and the rest is up to him! oh and his little brother is getting married this summer!
So am I now a lady in waiting? heehee