(Closed) Am I way behind???

posted 8 years ago in June 2010
Post # 3
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1932 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

Have you told him how you feel? You obviously know how guys are, soo clueless and so forgotful. I bet he thinks he has all the time in world, he’s in the mindset that the wedding is still three months out. All you should have to do is be honest, or bring it up casually, “how are the invites coming along?”

Give him a definite deadline, say, “I want the invites out 7 weeks before the wedding. So ____(date) is when they need to be done, do you think you can do that?”

With guys, subtlety never works, be up front and honest and let him know what you want and expect.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh you have plenty of time. Lots of books say to send them out way in advance, but I know lots of couples who didn’t send them out til 1 or 2 months before the wedding & there wasn’t a problem. If you send them out too early, people loose them or forget. I think 1 month before is PLENTY of time.

My wedding is in May & we STILL haven’t started our invites. We’ll finish them within the next 2 weeks, so about 1 month before the wedding is when we’ll mail them.

You’ve sent the Save the Dates already, so everyone knows about it. As long as they get the invites about a month before, you are completely fine :).

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

well you’re cutting it pretty close. I’d just do them with him tonight or set aside a specific night in the near future. My wedding is July 10 and I sent mine out this week. I’d def say get them in the mail by the 2-month mark.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

@serabell, thank you haha. My wedding is less than 7 weeks (the week after yours) and my invites aren’t out yet either. Should be out by the end of this week or next though.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 1998

You should really get them out in the next week or 2 if possible – 2 months seems to be the deadline generally. I’m sure you can cut it closer, but the less time you leave people, the more will have plans already and the less time you’ll have to chase down the non-responders.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

@miss spunkin – yea you have plenty of time too :). wow its soooo close!!!

@vfoster03 – you may want to talk with your Fiance & say that you need the cover done by the end of the week. remind him the day before. at the end of the week, do a test print & see how you like it. that gives time for revision, if needed. my Fiance & I really wanted to do a slideshow, but making/burning 225 dvds using 1 computer PLUS printing the labels seemed too crazy for us. how are you doing this?

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Not to make you worry, but I would be a little anxious if he had not even started them. there are lots of things to consider:

  • Do you already have the materials? If not, you should definitely buy them now so that he can start working on them ASAP.
  • Is it something that will only take a short period of time to do or will is it an extensive project that will take more than a few hours?? If he works two jobs and it’s something that will take several evenings or weekends to finish, I’d get started ASAP.
  • It also depends on how many Out of Town guests you are having. More Out of Town = More RSVP time needed
  • And when does the venue need the final head count…most places that I know of require 3 weeks prior to wedding. So you need to consider when your RSVP date would be. I’d set it probably 4 weeks in advance so that you have a week to call unresponsive invitees….

All of that being said, you should give your guests at least 4 weeks to respond if most are from same town; this would mean you should mail them out in the next couple weeks. However, if you have lots of guests coming from Out of Town, you probably would want them in the mail ASAP. My cousin is getting married on the same day as you and she sent her invites out weeks ago (however, hers is a destination wedding so its a bit different scenario).

Anyway, hope this helps.

Post # 12
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m feeling much better about how my invitations are coming as well! Thanks!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Mine is June 12 and I don’t have them either! And I’m stressing. My sister is “busy working”

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