(Closed) Am I Worrying Too Much?

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
9 posts

I applaud you for being so honest, really I do.

I can relate. My SO wasn’t driven by money either and in time it really started to worry me. I mean, I am by no means obsessed with money but I sure as hell started to feel like I was.

And I too didn’t want/need a mansion or to live a life of luxury, but I started to mature and realise that yes, money is not the most important thing of all, but … money is necessary in order to live well – money for doctors, a home, food and holiday breaks for working hard etc.

Of course, if money was not an issue I would of married him in a heartbeat, but that’s just not how things are in reality (sadly). 

So… my advice to you is that I would stop worrying that you are turning into a materialistic person – you aren’t – you just know the difference between being poor and living comfortably and you want whats best for you and your family in the future.

With regard to your SO, I would try to help him realise that 1) he could and will benefit from being more financially aware and secure, 2) he needs to be both.

What made you realise this… consider this… and then help him realise  🙂




Post # 4
1849 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Would you ever move someplace where the cost of living is lower? Relocating can go a looooooong way, not only for him but also for your malpractice insurance costs. Truthfully, I don’t think anyone is ever as driven as a doctor, and he will never measure up to you. But in the long run, it might be good for your relationship if he can balance out super-busy-doctor you with some of his own more laid back attitude and free time. 

Post # 6
248 posts
Helper bee

Heyy there 🙂 


I agree with those above but there is also another way in which you could tackle the situation without the focus being all about the money. Seeing as those he keeps changing his mind about his career path, maybe sit him down and ask him if he’s really happy with where he is with life . This conversation starter could then lead to the topic about income and the future of your finances. You definitely have nothing to worry about or feel bad about. It’s lovely that you’re thinking ahead not only for the two of you but your future family.

I wish you all the best of luck! x

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