(Closed) Am I wrong….

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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4123 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Honestly, if I were you, I would just blow it off. The odds that this marriage will actually happen are low, and the odds that they’ll live “happily ever after” seem even lower.  I say, who cares. And, is there a reason you’re still friends with her? I’m not sure I would want someone like that as a friend… 

Post # 4
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8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

Sorry you are having to go through this. I think she is doing this because she wants to be like you. She is jealous that you are happy and just can’t stand it. I just wouldn’t say anything more to her about your plans and just nod and say mmmm or okay when she talks about hers. I don’t think that she will be happily married because her boyfriend/FI doesn’t really want to do this and “there is someone on the side”. I think she is and is going to continue to be very unhappy. She sounds desparate and may not even realize what she is doing.

Post # 5
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1232 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Nope, you’re not wrong! I had a friend just like her. Key word HAD. People like that are TOXIC. They have no regard for anyones elses feelings or lives. Hence her getting pregnant  (no regard for how it would alter her mans life), getting you ugly dresses (most likely to make her feel better about herself) stealing dw 1, and your dw, bc she’s either unoriginal and has to steal ideas bc she can’t think of anything good on her own OR she is just that plain evil and wants to steal your dream.  I’m sorry, she may be your friend, but speaking from experiece you definitely want this type of person out of your life!

Post # 6
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838 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

First off im sorry to hear someone you call your friend in being so rude and inconsiderate about your feelings, She seems like she has a lot of issues with herself and very insecure. These are people that you need to take two steps back from because all they will do is bring drama and the sad thing is half the time they dont even know it. That made my blood boil a little haha that would just tick me off! and you have every right to be upset. Just know YOUR day will be special and you did not have to practically push your bf to marry you. : )

Post # 8
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83 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sounds like she is a loser (sorry).  There are some people you just need to let go of in life.  Mostly because she is making a mess of her life (sorry again), secondly because she is not being a good friend to you.  There are a million places to get married…or to plan a wedding that’s not happening…you have every right to be angry.

Post # 9
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1135 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Sounds like you are in quite a pickle. I agree, don’t worry about it. If you say anything about that location being “your spot”, she’ll just turn and accuse you of being loopy for claiming a location.

You have two options really. Just keep your mouth shut and when she asks you to be there, you stand up in whatever ugly dress it is. Or, you sit her down and talk to her about how you really want her to be happy and that marrying this guy is not going to make her happy. Cite examples of women you know who are successful single mothers and try to steer her in the right direction. Who knows, she might actually hear you.

Either way, it’s a tough one. Good luck!

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