Post # 1
So today I got some disturbing news. My fiancé has been married before. I had been asking him what were the colors of the previous wedding but he didn’t remember. So he had to call ex mother in law to find out. My worst fear. Their colors were blue and silver. I had also choose blue as my theme is a romantic night at the beach. So lots of candlelight and different shades of blue. Fiancé said I should staytwitch everything I have selected, however I don’t want the same things she had. I have selected bridesmaid dresses, venue, centerpieces, also doing up lighting. Am I wrong for not wanting the same things now and having to change my theme to something else? I am really sad and fiancé doesn’t get it . I need a woman’s advice cause some of those same relatives will be at our wedding.Also, if u have a theme ideas would be great. The wedding and reception at botanical gardens
Post # 3
personally i think it’s silly that you can’t use blue just because their colors were blue and silver, but i guess if you haven’t actually bought stuff for the wedding yet it isn’t a huge deal
Post # 4
Do you really think the guests will remember the colors of the ex’s wedding? Even if they do… it’s not the same wedding! You won’t have the same stuff she had, I would keep the blue and silver colors because that’s what YOU want! Happy planning!
Post # 5
If your fiancé didn’teven remember what his own colors were, his relatives probably won’t remember either. Don’t give up your theme based on her, but I totally understand if you do.
Post # 6
I wouldnt worry about it. I agree, I do not remember the colors of someone’s wedding from YEARS ago. If it bothers YOU then YOU should make the decision to change it. No one else’s opinion should matter and again no one problem will care if you use blue.
Post # 7
Who cares? You’re keeping the groom from that wedding!! 😉
ETA-was it really necessary for him to call his ex mother in law???
Post # 8
I agree – no big deal! No one will give a passing thought to it.
Post # 9
Your Fi didn’t even remember I doubt anyone else would also you could add a soft pink to make it three colors just to mix it up!
Post # 10
that is silly and unreasonable considering everything is bought. He didn’t even remember the colors so who cares? It’s going to look way different anyways.
Post # 12
If he had to call his ex-MIL, does that mean he asked several women in his own family and none of them could remember? If so, there’s your answer.
Post # 13
I think you can add a soft pink, lime green, lavendar, dark purple or a bunch of other colors to make it a little more yours. But I doubt anyone remembers what color their wedding was anyways. How long ago was the wedding? I assume it was a least 5 years ago and I know I wouldn’t be able to remember colors from that long ago unless it was in a picture in my house. Which is probably isn’t since they’re divorced.
Post # 14
to paula1248: he asked his sisters but they didn’t remeber
to asscherlover: it was 8 years ago. Thanks for the color selections to add with it. Theres another bee whose doing inspiration boards and I asked her to do one for me.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
There are only so many colors in the rainbow…
Honestly, most of those guests wont even remember what the previous color scheme was, and those that do wont care. So much of a wedding theme is inspired by the couple that even if it’s the same theme/color the atmosphere will be different and that’s what people remember.
I would keep your theme as-is and remember that what happened in the past will stay there unless you dig it up. Enjoy the planning process, and don’t worry about what came before.
Post # 16
@Latrise: That’s my point. If his own sisters don’t even remember, no other guests will remember either. Have the colour scheme you want, and don’t even bother yourself thinking about his first wedding. No one remembers it, no one cares about it.