(Closed) Am I wrong? (Long, sorry!)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I would not say anything at all. She is trying to fight if she did it on the open message. Just let it be.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I think that is hurtful that you didn’t respond or say good bye. Why be so mean. Maybe she doesn’t realize how affected you are with the past situation, dont assume she knows.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@seevan07:  Honestly? I would just write back – We will miss you! Have a safe flight.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@nycsa:  agree. Simple as that. We will miss you! Have a safe flight.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Don’t respond. She’s the one who looks bad to the whole friend group here, not you. You are not wrong. 

IF you do decide you’d like to say something, send her a private message or email. (Anything except responding for the whole friend group to see!) However, I don’t think you are obligated to do so. It seems like she is picking a fight, and responding to people who are picking a fight plays right into their hands.

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ah yes, Facebook… High School for everyone !!

Honestly she was immature… and not cool.

IF she had a problem with you she should have dealt with it one-on-one… by calling or emailing you directly.  NOT choosing to OUT YOU and thereby embarass you infront of a large group.

(( HUGS )) for that… because I know it was hurtful

But time to let it be.  Lessons learned.

1- Room-mates suck

2- Not everyone is mature as we are… or even as much as we wish and hope they’d be.

3- Your REAL Friends will see this for what it is… an immature act.  They’ll probably figure out that her “Drama” was more than you all could handle, which is WHY she and you parted company to begin with (back to Points 1 and 2 above)

4- And lastly… India is far far away.  Chances are you won’t be seeing her or dealing with her drama anytime again in the near future.

As we grow (be that in age or life experiences) friendships change… count this one as one that has run its course.  Nothing really here to worry about.

Hope this helps,

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You’re only raising questions by not saying bye, especially since she put you on blast, people will be wondering whats going on. Seems to me that your friend doesn’t have a clue that you’re upset because she asked you and you didn’t respond. She can’t read your mind. If you don’t want to deal with her just say bye. You don’t have to worry about her anymore.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

In all honesty, I don’t think I’d respond, either.  Even if she wasn’t aware of your reasons for not responding, it was rude of her to put you on full blast like that.  And I don’t think that type of behavior warrants a response.  It could turn into a back and forth she-said-she-said campaign for all of your friends to witness, and who needs that?

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Oh c’mon, I think your roomate is childish for past situation and for callling you out on facebook BUT also you are too for never letting her know about your feelings.

I hate that, why are “some” girls like that. When something bothers you that another person did, you ignore them. Why? Let them know upfront without being confrontation. That’s just me, if something bothers me that I don’t like. i let them know from the beginnning, I dont’ ignore, we’re all grown women here, talk it out.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

you said “The whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth”…I’m sure she now feels that way in return from you by ignoring her, so call it even. The End.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

There is a culture thing here I think, I lived with an Indian as well for period of time. 1 it is normally against their culture to room with a male. She may have had her Boyfriend or Best Friend move in so that she was more comfortable in the apartment without making it to seem as though she had an issue with your Boyfriend or Best Friend. Also when this girl left there was a large party for her and indians that did and did not know her as well as those she didn’t always get along with were there.  As far as cleaning some have maids there vs here where we do it all and our way of cleaning is different. I found I had to ask my roommate to get things but if i asked she would normally do so or would ask me to get it but give me the money for it. I wouldn’t shrug her off. I would type back that you have had a lot going on recently and you hope she has a good flight home.

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