(Closed) Am I wrong?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
1899 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@trueblue14:  +1

Not a baby fan either, but I wouldn’t think twice about going to see my SO’s family’s new baby if invited. I would show up with the requisite baby blanket and a smile. When you are in a relationship/engaged, it’s no longer just about you and what you want. You need to change your paradigm if you want your relationship/engagement with the Fiance to work. If something is important to him and won’t harm you to go, just do it. By not going, you would actually not only further alienate your Future Sister-In-Law, but also his family, as I’m assuming they all talk.

Post # 78
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@Shoppe: This advice goes to BOTH you and your fiance:


Welcome to family obligations.  When you get married you get another set of them.  Start supporting each other as each other’s family instead of keeping score.

Post # 79
1094 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Yes you are wrong. I hate kids and kids hate me. But this child is about to be family and you are an aunt. You ought to be crazy about the kid and excited. Just because you don’t like kids doesn’t mean you get to ignore family members who ARE families.


You are completely out of line and acting very immaturely. 

Post # 80
3479 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

* care less



Sorry, I had to. 

Post # 81
2144 posts
Buzzing bee

Is anyne else seeing her behavior? I find it odd that as soon as you come in up she goes to the bedroom and everyone is left wondering if she as a huge..eh..headache?


someone else must be seeing this. I’d have a family member step in. How close are you with his parents? I dunno, its either that or ignore her and never go to a family funcition again.


I missed the part where he refuses to go to your family events. Is that because you wouldn’t go or because he just outright refuses to go even after this baby visit.

Post # 82
2144 posts
Buzzing bee

@Sasha2011:  Eh, I dont agree with this. If one doesnt like kids then why pretend that they do? Why force it. Maybe she doesnt want to be a part of the kids life. As for someone who doesnt like kids I get this. My brother had a kid, I held it once and I bought it a toy. That’s pretty much the extent of my duties as an aunt.

Post # 83
422 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@Shoppe:  I think you are wrong, even if you don’t like babies, you can go see them and wish them well, it’s rude not to. I think your fiance is in the wrong too from saying those things, but if I were you i would be a bigger person, go see the SIL and the baby and be done with it.

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