(Closed) AM I WRONG…..

posted 8 years ago in Parties
  • poll: AM I WRONG for not wanting a shower
    Yes... dead wrong : (9 votes)
    16 %
    NO, do what you want : (41 votes)
    73 %
    OTHER....explain please : (6 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    1810 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    What are your reasons, if you don’t mind sharing?

    Post # 4
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I voted do what youwant…but i am curios as well as to what your reasoning is.

    My sister didnt want one either, she didtn want to be the centre of attention etc.

    Post # 6
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    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I voted do what you want, but will warn you that you can not stop people from throwing you a shower. it’s not your choice. i mean, can you stop people from throwing oyu a birthday party or a baby shower? No! They do it on their own with no direction from you. So whether you like it or not, you might get one, and I wouldn’t recommend starting to complain right after they say “SURPRISE!”

    but if you’ve made it clear you don’t want it, hopefully they will listen.

    I’d like to know why you don’t want it because I can’t imagine not wanting to be showered with gifts…

    Post # 7
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    965 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @mzsimmons:If you are a bride…you will be the center of attention. I’m right there with you on that one though. I hate it! But I’ll grin and bear it because I love that so many people want to make me feel special. And if I don’t like what I get…I will return it and get something else! =)

     

    Post # 8
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    13096 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t think you’re wrong in for feeling but I think you should also look at it from their perspective and try to compromise.  They are wanting and trying to do something really nice for you!

    I also think you have some misconceptions.  Almost every single gift I got at my shower was straight off our registry (and one that wasn’t was super personalized and special – made me cry when I opened it).  And if you’re owrried about being the center of attention, ask them to make it smaller – like give them a max guest count or something.

    Post # 9
    Hostess
    16196 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I agree that there needs to be a compromise. Can you have a small bridal shower?

    Also, it might be good practice for being the center of attention on your wedding day…

    Post # 10
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    160 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I don’t think it’s a big deal not to want a shower.  If people really want to make you feel special, they should probably listen to you first.

    Post # 11
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    10366 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Why not just have a small shower and compromise? Showers aren’t the worst thing in the world, and what is a few hours of good food and gifts while in the spotlight compared to keeping the peace? In general, i’m a fan of the “do what you want”, but in this case, it is such an easy compromise to keep everyone happy – why not just do that?

    Post # 12
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    177 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I think bridesmaids and moms really enjoy throwing showers. I understand how you don’t want to be the ‘center of attention’, but as other bees posted…its inevitable not to be as a bride. I vote for some sort of compromise: If you don’t want to have a traditional ‘open presents in front of everyone’ shower then try something else! I threw my sister-in-law a wine shower. We paired lots of yummy cheeses with different wines and everyone bought the couple a bottle of wine with instructions of when to open it. Now, if you aren’t a wine drinker this won’t work for you. However, just gives an idea of how you don’t have to have a typical shower, but can still get together with family and friends to celebrate!

    Post # 13
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    285 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    normally i would say go with what you want, however, i think you and your family/friends can come up with a reasonable compromise on this one…instead of a shower you can all go out for a wine tasting or other fun activity and any gifts you receive you can open at home…

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