(Closed) Am I wrong???????????

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 77
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3218 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would have a talk to your FI– no big argument or lots of emotions– just be like “hey, I feel kind of like a third wheel in my own house with the two of you, can you try and make an effort to include me a little more?” At least if you all watch a movie together he can be cuddled up with you on the couch or something?

I’m totally chill with my Fiance hanging out with girls and having girl friends and everything, but if some girl who was crushing on him was hanging on him, I’d expect him to be all over me! 

 

Post # 78
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

ANYONE who is gluten intolerant is used to providing their own food. Period. They know they cannot eat what most people eat, and while it is certainly kind of you both to consider her dietary needs while she stays, i highly doubt she is expecting you to cook for her, much less BUY her food. ????

i find that weird on the part of your Fiance, to buy her groceries.

anyway, I’m sure she’ll be looking out for herself, and if you can prepare some meals together that you can all eat, great. But I wouldn’t stress over this. You have a busy life and she is the guest!

Post # 79
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Seven days is TOO LONG ugh! For most of the time i would jokingly nudge her to cook for the household if you provide the groceries. I would also make her accompany me to the grocery store because even though you invited her to stay WITH you you did not invite her to come>

Post # 81
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@rainy_smith:  Wow, issues much?  “I got overwhelmed”  WTF?!  Maybe if it was your fisrt day requiring Girlfriend you could claim that, but after having it for a while…you’d know what the aisle looked like!  Honey you are so much more patient than I would be in your situation!

DId your Fiance say anything to you about it? 

Post # 83
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Worker bee

WOW, I would not like to be in your position!

I think that as she is your guest your are supposed to provide the food, but given her gluten intolerance I think you are excused. You took her to the grocery store to get what she likes and can eat, so from now own I would eat my own normal food (including pizza) and leave her to worry about herself.

She is clearly not considerate to the fact that you are NOT on vacation!

Post # 84
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8736 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@rainy_smith:  Wow.. she sounds like a bad house guest and a bit of a piece of work. At least your Fiance can see what’s going on now and hopefully is seeing your side of things now.

Post # 85
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2699 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ah you see….say nothing, be a great host, don’t complain….and she’ll show him what a pain in the arse she is without you having to do a thing!

Post # 86
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1370 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@ticatica:  this!

Good thing your Fiance is seeing it too…now you won’t be the bad guy!

Hang in there!

Post # 87
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2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@rainy_smith:  She sounds more awful with each passing day.  Hang in there!

Post # 88
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2868 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

No, I don’t think you’re being selfish.. that’s exactly what I would do, plan the first meal that you cook for her that’s something you know she can eat, and after that take her shopping (SHE CAN BUY IT).  I have a friend who is a vegetarian (obviously different but go with me) – she knows how much of a pain her dietary restrictions can be when it comes to making plans for dinners and such, so she is always careful to be responsible for her own stuff without making it hard on whoever is with her.  Ex: I don’t think you have to cook all her meals for her if you’re cooking something different for you and FI!

Post # 89
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

OMG what a looney she is!  How does she manage in anything?

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