Post # 77
I would have a talk to your FI– no big argument or lots of emotions– just be like “hey, I feel kind of like a third wheel in my own house with the two of you, can you try and make an effort to include me a little more?” At least if you all watch a movie together he can be cuddled up with you on the couch or something?
I’m totally chill with my Fiance hanging out with girls and having girl friends and everything, but if some girl who was crushing on him was hanging on him, I’d expect him to be all over me!
Post # 78
ANYONE who is gluten intolerant is used to providing their own food. Period. They know they cannot eat what most people eat, and while it is certainly kind of you both to consider her dietary needs while she stays, i highly doubt she is expecting you to cook for her, much less BUY her food. ????
i find that weird on the part of your Fiance, to buy her groceries.
anyway, I’m sure she’ll be looking out for herself, and if you can prepare some meals together that you can all eat, great. But I wouldn’t stress over this. You have a busy life and she is the guest!
Post # 79
Seven days is TOO LONG ugh! For most of the time i would jokingly nudge her to cook for the household if you provide the groceries. I would also make her accompany me to the grocery store because even though you invited her to stay WITH you you did not invite her to come>
Post # 80
Ok, so I just thought I would write an “update” as I was REALLY annoyed last night!
I came home late from work and my guest was at home working on her computer. Fiance had a problem at work and no at home, so he could not take her to the grocery store.
So, as I was super hungry I said to her: Let’s eat and then I will take you to get groceries.
She said she was not hungry and I thought that maybe she didn’t like chili at all and actually felt bad. I at super quickly and as we were leaving Fiance got home. He was happy i was taking her to the store.
I asked to which store she wanted to go. There were 2 fairly close: one 10 minutes away and one 20 minutes away. She said she wanted to go to the one 20 minutes away because she thought it would have more Girlfriend stuff.
We got there and found the Girlfriend aisle. They had TONS of stuff. So I said: take you time, I will look at some stuff too (although I had gotten groceries on Saturday).
OK, not kidding, TWO minutes later she was behind me saying she was done! I asked : What did you get? And she had THREE items in her basket!!!!!!!!! One bag with 4 little buns, one vendor-machine sized cookie bag and one 1/2 lb bag of dried pasta. And that is all! So I take you shopping for your special needs and that is ALL you get? She was telling me how she can’t eat most tomato sauces and stuff and she gets NO sauce for her pasta????????? No fruits, no vegetables of her like, nothing.
Then we got home and Fiance said: Back already??????????? She said the store had too much stuff and she got overwhelmed!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Seriously????????????
So, now, I am done. I told her I don’t know anything about her disease and all that she can’t eat, I took her shopping and she got nothing.
If she wants to eat fruits and vegetables the whole week it is her call. I am starting to think she is as someone said REALLY socially inapt…
Post # 81
@rainy_smith: Wow, issues much? “I got overwhelmed” WTF?! Maybe if it was your fisrt day requiring Girlfriend you could claim that, but after having it for a while…you’d know what the aisle looked like! Honey you are so much more patient than I would be in your situation!
DId your Fiance say anything to you about it?
Post # 82
He got really annoyed. But he also said: You tried, you did your part…
She ended up eating around 11:00pm (the cili finally) when I was packing up lunches for today. She used the microwave cover and it got all dirty and she looked at me and said: where do i put this. I told her to put it in the sink. Fiance was around and got really mad because after she ate she put her bowl and utensils there too and didn’t even mention washing them. Actually Fiance started doing the dishes!!!!!!!!!!! Yeah, he is annoyed…
Post # 83
WOW, I would not like to be in your position!
I think that as she is your guest your are supposed to provide the food, but given her gluten intolerance I think you are excused. You took her to the grocery store to get what she likes and can eat, so from now own I would eat my own normal food (including pizza) and leave her to worry about herself.
She is clearly not considerate to the fact that you are NOT on vacation!
Post # 84
@rainy_smith: Wow.. she sounds like a bad house guest and a bit of a piece of work. At least your Fiance can see what’s going on now and hopefully is seeing your side of things now.
Post # 85
Ah you see….say nothing, be a great host, don’t complain….and she’ll show him what a pain in the arse she is without you having to do a thing!
Post # 86
Good thing your Fiance is seeing it too…now you won’t be the bad guy!
Hang in there!
Post # 87
@rainy_smith: She sounds more awful with each passing day. Hang in there!
Post # 88
No, I don’t think you’re being selfish.. that’s exactly what I would do, plan the first meal that you cook for her that’s something you know she can eat, and after that take her shopping (SHE CAN BUY IT). I have a friend who is a vegetarian (obviously different but go with me) – she knows how much of a pain her dietary restrictions can be when it comes to making plans for dinners and such, so she is always careful to be responsible for her own stuff without making it hard on whoever is with her. Ex: I don’t think you have to cook all her meals for her if you’re cooking something different for you and FI!
Post # 89
OMG what a looney she is! How does she manage in anything?