- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2012
I guess my only issue here is that they seem to be volunteering to do things and then saying they can’t afford it. If they can’t afford it, that’s fine. None of these things are mandatory. But, they need to be up front about it from the beginning. You shouldn’t have to pay for a shower they offered to throw. Let them know that you are happy to help, but if they can’t afford it, they shouldn’t be feel obligated.
I think it was rather rude for you to tell your Bridesmaid or Best Man that she could look up the protocol for shower invites. You are right in that you shouldn’t have to cover the costs of the postage, but postage is really not that expensive so it doesn’t seem like it’s a huge deal to me.
If everyone keeps complaining about money, maybe it is because they honestly can’t afford to throw an extravagant shower and rent out a venue. My shower was just at a restaurant so there were no venue fees. If they are bringing up money issues, then tell them you’d be happy to have the shower at someone’s house, so you can save money on a venue fee and people can also bring food so you can save money on food too.
This is kind of strange… If I offered to throw my friend a shower, I accept all responsibility for the costs, which include postage. If they couldn’t accept it, why did they offer it? Postage isn’t really all that expensive though. I wouldn’t have made that big of a deal about it.
Your Bridesmaid or Best Man that you had the invitation issue with: has she ever been a Bridesmaid or Best Man before? Myabe she just honestly didn’t know the etiquette…heck I didn’t know any of it until I joined the bee! I think blowing up at her was kinda harsh….
Did the OP delete her post or something? I don’t see anything…
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