(Closed) Am I wrong about being upset???

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 18
Member
522 posts
Busy bee

@southernbelle381:  +1 to every point raised.

I would be so upset if my SO pulled what he did. I hope you can get a clear timeline from him and get to the bottom of what is keeping him from proposing.

Post # 19
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Wow. I would be really upset. But, if he’s generally a good guy and doesn’t usually do stuff like this, I’d give him the benefit of the doubt. Maybe he really did think he was doing what you wanted. I suppose I can just about understand his logic.

Anyway, the other advice on this thread is good – consider plan B first and foremost, and then sit down and have a serious conversation with him. 

Post # 20
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3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yup, I’d be pissed, too.  But clearly you know the guy better than we do, you need to sit him down and have a good talk with him.  Maybe he was just “in the moment” and thought “what the fuck, she said she wants a baby, I’m going for it!”  Based on the conversations you did have, it sounds like he didn’t think you’d get pregnant anyway.  Not that it makes it any better or less likely, but might help you come to terms with his behavior.

And just another point – you can plan a wedding in less than 6 months and still have a very nice, intimate wedding and hardly be showing.  If you get a decent photographer you won’t even see it in your pictures. 

Post # 21
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3729 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: City, State

This isn’t cool. I would not take this well. It is the same thing as you agreeing to stop taking birth control because you already agreed you wanted a baby someday. Trying to conceive needs to be a 100% joint decision.

I think you need an honest talk about how this made you feel and your timeline. If youwant a fall 2014 wedding, you want to be engaged by April to give you time to plan

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