- 4 years ago
- Wedding: January 2014
We’ve lived across the country from each other for 4 years now, but we’ve stayed best friends. We’ve been close for over 10 years. We would take trips to visit one another, and I introduced her to one of my fiance’s friends. They’ve been dating for almost two years now.
She moved in with him (about an hour and a half away from me) within the last few weeks. However, not only did she not host my bridal shower, she didn’t even attend. My shower was planned months in advance, she was well aware, but she chose to make that her moving day…
Fine, I let that go…
Then I ask her to come to my final dress fitting because someone, other than my mother, needed to know how to work with my dress (it is material that must be mastered, trust me). Didn’t come.
I asked her to come to my bridal portraits to help out and give fun ideas, didn’t come.
I am paying for their hotels, make-up, shoes, earrings, and $500 total in bridesmaid gifts, but I told them if they wanted airbrush make-up, they would have to pay for it. I just couldn’t afford another $255 on top of everything else. We discussed on three separate occasions when I had to pay for their make-up (it was due weeks in advance). She PROMISED she would have it all wired over to me. Like I said, talked about three separate times. Sure enough, they day comes and goes. Nothing. I went in and paid it so they wouldn’t lose their reservation, and I very NICELY told her I did so. She was so nonchalant about it that it set me off… and the girls claimed she never even told them it was due early. She doesn’t understand why getting screwed out of $255 a week before Christmas is a big deal.
Granted shes unmarried, and a little bitter she’s not engaged yet, but shouldn’t the Maid/Matron of Honor be a little bit more involved and supportive? Or am I expecting too much…
She ALWAYS has an excuse, and I can acknowledge that she has a lot going on, but she IS the Maid/Matron of Honor… I feel like sometimes you just have to make these things a priority, no matter how busy you are. She doesn’t understand, AT ALL, why I am upset with her. No apology, just defensive.
It’s two weeks before the wedding, and all I got from her was, “Fine, find someone else.” Lovely drama that comes with weddings… and you think you know people! ):