(Closed) Am I wrong for being mad at my FI?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Guys are very non confrontational, so i understand why your Fiance reacted the way he did towards them. I dont think its warranted for you to get mad at your Fiance. you very well could have called up there and given them a piece of your mind if you wanted to do that. I think its bet to have handled this situation the way your Fiance did. I mean yeah that sucks that its not ready when it said it would be, but mistakes happen.

Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

There’s no reason you can’t ask for a rental now, given that it’s been there for so long.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Yeah I’d make the dealership give me a loaner car. They should have given you one free of charge after they made your vehicle inoperable after a routine OIL CHANGE. That’s ridiculous. Call back and ask for the Service Manager.

I would be mad too, but after an hour to cool down and a glass of wine I would get over it. Especially if this is how he handles confrontation regularly. I would just make sure to leave him out of situations like this in the future and handle it myself. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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themoonofhislife:  We all have different ways of approaching confrontation, I am like your Fiance, I would be like ok, fine, sure, I understand (if its within reason), and my fiance gets annoyed/angry with me for not running in and being upset and demanding things, but it doesnt come naturally to me nor do I always see is as a necessity. Not everything gets fixed with a more aggresive approach. But I understand why you are upset for sure, it is your car, they made a mistake and they need to fix it. I am pretty calm overall but if it is something so unjust and unfair and nothing makes sense and I am frutrated, then that is a different story. It just may be a personality thing or many since it does not affect him the same way as it does you (he has a car, you dont) then maybe he just hasnt built up that feeling of being angry and upset. I get mad at my Fiance when he gets mad at me for not “putting my foot down”, but sometimes I don’t feel the same way at that moment and I cant force myself for reacting in any other way…

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

I’d have been pleasant and non-confrontational on the phone too.  What will it get you to yell at them?  Nothing but pissed off people working on your car.  It sucks that you haven’t got a rental and I’d say that with the new delay they need to give you one.  But what’s stopping you from calling and taking care of that yourself anyway? Also I’d never go back to that dealership once they’d ruined my car.  Grrr.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

See, my Fiance is very passive and I am the aggressor.  For this reason, I would have been the one to talk to them.  I deal with all of our customer service issues.  Personally, I would have been telling them that they ruined a one year old vehicle and that they needed to replace it.  If all they would to was replace the engine (which just sounds like it could be a problem down the road) I would be expecting SOMETHING for the inconvenience and you better be overnighting the parts.  That’s just me.

If your Fiance is the cosigner and you are on the vehicle too it makes no sense that they wouldn’t talk to you.  Screw that.  I’d be calling the corporate office and telling Fiance I would take it from here. 

Fiance calls me a customer service nightmare.. Three things you don’t mess with.  My family, my pets, and my money.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This is the way my Fiance is. So passive aggressive and it’s honestly annoying so I def understand where you’re coming from. So I would tell ur Fiance thanks but no thanks, I’m going to deal with this now. snd I would call them myself and tell them u need a rental since they have had UR car for wayyyy longer than they orginally told u.

also fwiw, they def are not seeing ur car as a priority since they are losing money on ur car, not making money off of u so they are taking their time and going to work on UR car at their convenience and when they have time. So they are making excuses for why it’s not done. Don’t expect them to rush it either, I know it’s shitty but that’s how it works… I would expect it to take another couple weeks at least so u better get that rental (my Fiance is a mechanic so I have heard things like this before)

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

I would be pretty worried that the dealership that is servicing my vehicle doesn’t know how to do an oil change! Pretty basic procedure I can even do them.I would find a new dealership to take it to.

As far as him saying you didn’t need a rental he was probably not thinking when he said you didn’t need one. I know if I get asked a question on the spot sometimes I don’t fully think it through. Be pissed but let it go it’s not worth dwelling over.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

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themoonofhislife:  can you not talk to these people yourself? Why is he doing it when its your car?

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I would be made at the dealership and not Fiance.  It’s not his fault they have screwed up.  He probably realizes yelling at them isn’t going to get you anywhere.  You catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar.  If I was you I would never take my car back to this dealership.  It doesn’t sound like they know what they are doing.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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themoonofhislife:   I would suggest going to the dealership and ask to talk to the man in charge, owner, whatever they call the number one person.  Go straight to the top.  You’ll get your loaner.  The dealership has messed up royally, not your Fiance.  

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2005 - A Castle

It’s YOUR car 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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themoonofhislife:  I would be annoyed. My DH is definitely not passive so that would drive me bonkers. There’s no reason you shouldn’t be able to get a rental now and yes they shouldn’t have told you it would take a week and a half if they knew hybrids take longer. 

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