Post # 1
You invite your fiance’s cousin and his wife to your wedding. They fail to RSVP, and only say how many they’ll be bringing when your fiance’s mother calls to ask them.
Here’s where the fun begins.
They say they’ll be bringing SIX with them, coming to a total of 8.
If they had 6 kids, that would be a little more tolerable… But you find out that they have 3 kids, 1 grandchild (born to one of their teenage children, father unknown), AND they’re bringing DATES for 2 of their children.
So, not only did they NOT ask if they could bring their children and grandchild (the invitation was specifically for the two adults), but they didn’t ask if they could bring dates for their children either.
Would you be upset? What would you do with only 2 weeks until the wedding?
Post # 3
Of course I would be upset. I would be calling them to inform that the extra 6 that they’ve confirmed are not welcome. “I’m sorry but we only have so many seats available and we can’t fit an extra 6 people”. How unbelievably rude!
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House
@picklejar1989: I WOULD be pissed personally. I would get your Future Mother-In-Law to say no to them. It’s way too close for them to pull that shit, but doesn’t surprise me. Older types are very used to being able to bring kids and dates to weddings.
Post # 5
@picklejar1989: “I’m sorry but I only have enough room for two people at the reception venue.”
Post # 6
I’d be furious! Who does that??? I’d have my Fiance call his cousin and say the invite was just for cousin and wife- sorry cousin.
Post # 7
Oh hell no. I’d call and say “we’re so thrilled you’re all so excited, unfortunately we only are able to extend the invitation to you and your wife, as indicated on the invitation. If this means you are not able to make it, we understand and you will be missed”
Post # 8
+1 to all the pps. You can’t just bring 4x the number you were invited as. Just tell them there’s only room for 2.
(though I’m not sure why the paternal status of the grandchild matters)
Post # 9
Put the ball back in their court.
Explain (or have your Future Mother-In-Law explain) that had they RSVP’ed, you could have accomodated all 8 of them. However, since it is only 2 weeks away, and they did not RSVP, that your evil venue/caterer/whatever will not allow you to accomodate more than two.
Post # 10
I would totally be pissed.
I would also contact and let them know it is NOT going to happen.
Post # 11
I would be beyond upset. I would be shocked and probably wouldn’t be able to pick my jaw up from the floor. The b***s on some people. I would lay down the law and let them know those that are welcome are the two on the invite and if that’s not good enough then don’t come. I mean, obvously say it nicely, but I’m just shocked at the amount of times that this happens.
Post # 12
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I would be severly pi$$ed off.
@bearlove: Perfect. I’m adding that to my “how to reply to rude RSVPs” list.
Post # 13
@Ivorybuttons: +1 very good way to put it.
Post # 14
I don’t know if I would be as upset as I would be sad. Sad that they had been raised (apparently by wolves) to think that this was in any capacity acceptable.
Just because they RSVP that way doesn’t mean you have to accomdate them. Call them up and tell them that you are sorry, but that you won’t be able to accomdate their request. Don’t give them an excuse, you don’t owe them an explanation.
Post # 15
I think it’s very presumptuous to bring anyone who wasn’t listed on the invitation…did you invite their kids? I agree with pps, I would be very upset about this!
Post # 16
I agree with everyone above. I would absolutely refuse for all the extras to come. Just the two invited.