(Closed) Am I wrong for being upset by this?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

Of course I would be upset. I would be calling them to inform that the extra 6 that they’ve confirmed are not welcome. “I’m sorry but we only have so many seats available and we can’t fit an extra 6 people”. How unbelievably rude!

Post # 4
1433 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

@picklejar1989:  I WOULD be pissed personally.  I would get your Future Mother-In-Law to say no to them.  It’s way too close for them to pull that shit, but doesn’t surprise me.  Older types are very used to being able to bring kids and dates to weddings.  

Post # 5
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@picklejar1989:  “I’m sorry but I only have enough room for two people at the reception venue.”

Post # 6
827 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’d be furious! Who does that???  I’d have my Fiance call his cousin and say the invite was just for cousin and wife- sorry cousin.

Post # 7
1626 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh hell no. I’d call and say “we’re so thrilled you’re all so excited, unfortunately we only are able to extend the invitation to you and your wife, as indicated on the invitation. If this means you are not able to make it, we understand and you will be missed”

Post # 8
364 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

+1 to all the pps. You can’t just bring 4x the number you were invited as. Just tell them there’s only room for 2.

(though I’m not sure why the paternal status of the grandchild matters)

Post # 9
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Put the ball back in their court.

Explain (or have your Future Mother-In-Law explain) that had they RSVP’ed, you could have accomodated all 8 of them.  However, since it is only 2 weeks away, and they did not RSVP, that your evil venue/caterer/whatever will not allow you to accomodate more than two.


Post # 10
2576 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would totally be pissed.


I would also contact and let them know it is NOT going to happen.

Post # 11
4464 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would be beyond upset. I would be shocked and probably wouldn’t be able to pick my jaw up from the floor. The b***s on some people. I would lay down the law and let them know those that are welcome are the two on the invite and if that’s not good enough then don’t come. I mean, obvously say it nicely, but I’m just shocked at the amount of times that this happens. 

Post # 12
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I would be severly pi$$ed off.

@bearlove:  Perfect. I’m adding that to my “how to reply to rude RSVPs” list.

Post # 14
3267 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t know if I would be as upset as I would be sad.  Sad that they had been raised (apparently by wolves) to think that this was in any capacity acceptable.

Just because they RSVP that way doesn’t mean you have to accomdate them.  Call them up and tell them that you are sorry, but that you won’t be able to accomdate their request.  Don’t give them an excuse,  you don’t owe them an explanation. 

Post # 15
328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think it’s very presumptuous to bring anyone who wasn’t listed on the invitation…did you invite their kids? I agree with pps, I would be very upset about this!

Post # 16
2135 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I agree with everyone above. I would absolutely refuse for all the extras to come. Just the two invited.

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