Am I wrong for feeling jealous/ upset the wedding was not what I wanted?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 16
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491 posts
Helper bee

What is important is that you married your best friend. But I do totally understand. My first wedding was in a tiny vegas like chapel. I was 6 months pregnant, wore a blue dress. A 75mph wind storm destroyed my vintage garden reception. No pictures.. No anything. So I totally get it. 

Why not do a small or private vow renewal, get a white sundress, and have a friend or photographer take pictures?

Post # 17
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733 posts
Busy bee

First off, congratuations on marrying a wonderful man, you are lucky.  🙂

Expensive weddings are not all they’re cracked up to be. I’ve attended weddings where there was a lot of money spent, and it was all done the way it’s supposed to be to have a perfect wedding day. In reality it was a ton on money spent and not the dream day after all. Some of these couples had to postpone dreams like a home and a family because it all went to the wedding day not of their dreams. For what it’s worth, I think you got married in a neat romantic way without all the stress and problems that a bigger wedding can cause.

To answer your question, I don’t think you are wrong to feel the way you feel.  I don’t think you really need to feel a sense of loss since  it’s not too late to fullfill the dream of a pretty dress and being surrounded by family if that is what you truely want! Many people get married on one day, but then later on find a dress they love and have a ceremony later on with realtives celebrating with a cake cutting and some fun. I don’t think you need to feel that you lost out on anything, there’s still time for white dresses, cake and parties that you can have later on if you’d like. In the mean time, enjoy being married to your wonderful husband.

Post # 19
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733 posts
Busy bee

would it be ok if I sent you a message?

I did go through disspointing feelings after the day I got married, so maybe sharing a bit could help.

if you’d like to chat a bit, send me a message and I can write you back if you’d like 🙂

Post # 20
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498 posts
Helper bee

I agree with some people who said you chose to get married in jeans and a top. I too got married at the courthouse and I wore a cute white dress I found on amazon for 29.99. 

You  have to own your choice and make the best of it. If seeing people getting engaged is affecting you that much, it’s time to get off of it. 

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