Thank you so much for telling me your story. That’s wonderful how you made your dress and things came together!
We’re very different in that we don’t want kids, and we plan to be childfree by choice, which means that it takes a lot more effort put into making our relationship stronger and still fun; planning dates and other activities that will build us but also finding a similar purpose so we can live it out together. Ours is animals, and especially dogs. So our end goal is to have a country home and start a rescue.
Having said that, because no kids are in the future and it’s just us, always has been us, I think in my mind, it justifies having those feelings come out, because in some way, it’s almost like, “why couldn’t we have had a slightly nicer wedding, we’re not going to have much fun..”
That’s such a bad thought! I know, life is just so boring right now and I’m at a really low place, and we’re still struggling with money and it’s just hard- so I think that’s why this is hitting me too. I think it’ll get better.
This!!!! I totally agree with this and I couldn’t reply to all the comments that suggest this, but this is a beautiful idea! Factoring in what elderbee and others said about me choosing what I did to get married in, there would have been no money, and neither of us wanted to wait. It would have been years, I mean like 5+ before we could afford the dress and to pay for guests, catering… all that. It seemed like the only decent compromise. I didn’t know what to pair with that white top! ugh lol
Anyways, I do think that we should, by December, even our 1 year, to be able to afford me a dress that makes me feel like I wanted, a suit for him, and a photoshoot in a beautiful place, maybe with a renewal, if you can do it that soon. Or even pictures in a church like I had always wanted ( that’s going to be a weird concept to describe to the pastor of the church.. lol)
Overall, THANK YOU for all your suggestions!
I’m still VERY glad that we didn’t spend a fortune on the wedding and that we’re not in debt because of it, that we’ll be able to get a house sooner because we didn’t have a big wedding. Most are extravagant IMO.
All I really wanted was a dress of around 500-600 that DID actually make me feel beautiful, him in a suit, our pastor friend to marry us and being in the church, surely we can arrange a little do-over later this year, and with this concept in mind that many of you have provided, it is very different and more feasible than doing “a second wedding”.
I think other issues play into this too that I might need to talk to my counselor about, the abadonment issue, the fact that I had a bad relationship with my mom because she was abusive, so I didn’t have a mother to help me with anything or support me. A doomed mentality because I felt like I had to settle ( which is true) but now I feel like I need to mope about it. Many things really… I’ll bring it up at my next session because they’ll only get worse.
Thank you again!