- 7 years ago
Before Fiance got with me, he lived a lifestyle that I would have never tolerated. His best friend since childhood was a drug addicted, pill head, loser. Fiance was with this guy all of the time. The guy had a girlfriend who was no better than him. They had a tumultuous relationship and fought and aruged all the time (while high on drugs). Fiance never did the drugs with them (other than smoking pot), but he was with them a lot and this guy was important to him. Obviously, they were friends since childhood.
Before I met Fiance, his friend got locked up. He’s been in prison for mine and FI’s entire relationship. I’ve never met him, don’t care to. Today, the friend’s mother called Future Mother-In-Law to give Fiance the guy’s address in prison. Apparently, he wants Fiance to write him letters. He is supposed to be getting out next June. Fiance is all excited about writing letters to this guy, and is really excited about him getting out of jail for some reason.
I DO NOT want Fiance around this guy, at all. Fiance has completely changed his life. He’s working, not smoking pot, ready to get married, buy a house, the whole nine. His friend is no good. He will get out of jail and be right back to the same ways again. He’ll get back with that crazy girl and she’ll be with him everywhere he goes, both of them on pills. I’ve told Fiance that they are NOT, by any means, allowed in my home. I do not want drug addicts who fight like crazy in my home. I don’t want Fiance hanging around them, either.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? I have mentioned my feelings to a few members of FI’s family (like Future Mother-In-Law and FFIL) and they all look at me like I’ve got three heads. Then, somebody will say, “(FI) and (guy in jail) have been friends their whole lives!” Like I am some evil, controlling witch. I’m not, though! Fiance has other friends that I don’t mind at all. But, this guy is just bad news. I am afraid he might try to get Fiance on a bad track again, or try to come to our house (which will NOT be accepted). I want a responsible, family man. That is what my Fiance is now. That is what he’s been since we’ve been together. His friend in jail is not ready for that kind of lifestyle. Fiance hasn’t talked to the guy in like two years (the last time they exchanged letters).
I just know this is going to end up being trouble. What is surprising me so much is that Future Mother-In-Law and Future Father-In-Law are pushing Fiance to write this guy letters and stuff. I don’t mind him writing letters, I just hope this dude doesn’t get out of prison thinking he’s coming to my house or something, or that Fiance is going to be his right hand man again. Those days are over.
I know someone is going to throw in the “give him the benefit of the doubt” card. Well, he’s already had his release date pushed back several times for getting caught with drugs in prison. The last letter he wrote to Fiance said that he couldn’t wait to get out and smoke the biggest blunt they’d ever rolled. So, this guy has not changed or had any revelations while being locked up. I don’t want these type of people in mine or FI’s life.