(Closed) Am I wrong for feeling this way?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

You are not wrong to feel this way. He is being disrespectful of your relationship (as is his mother). I hate to say that he’s not going to change, but…it doesn’t look like he puts much stock into your relationship at all. 

Post # 4
1762 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Big hugs Im sorry hear what your going through….i think you should take the time to really think about what you really want. You deserve better.

Post # 5
5428 posts
Bee Keeper

It doesn’t look like he wants you to be a part of his life…. just a live in maid with benefits perhaps? Sorry if i am being rude but that’s what I see here.

Post # 6
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

He is who he is, you have to either love him and accept him as is or find someone that will give you what you need. His behaviour will not change after marriage., and if he can’t respect you now he won’t later on.

Post # 7
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@JazzyGirl:  He doesn’t seem to treasure you, has issues w. his kids and ex… I don’t think this is the best situation. You should find someone w. less drama.

Post # 8
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Sounds like you will always be in the background. Do you really want all this drama in your life before you get an actual commitment? Love should make you happy not miserable. If you love him so much that you can’t let him go, then you will have to fight for him with his Mommy and his single ex for as long as it takes.. I would step back and think of what it is you really want from a man and from a relationship. May be this man can’t give you the things that you need to be happy.

Post # 9
2565 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Sounds like far too much drama IMO.  I think you’re better off finding someone who respects you and your relationship.

Post # 10
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

How are you feeling JazzyGirl?

Just sending some hugs your way!

Post # 11
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I was in almost the same situation 10 yrs ago. I stayed with him for 2 yrs. GET OUT NOW. Trust me if he lies to you about this or doesn’t include you there is something he is hiding.  You do not need this TRUST ME! Trust your intuition and get out NOW!  If  his mother is being this way to you now she will always be. Do you want to be second fiddle. Also there is 2 sets of child support and spousal support. 

I may be jaded because when I finally ended my relationship I was tens of thousands of dollars in debt (all him due to gambling) and 8 1/2 months pregnant (he had four kids from two previous marriages and told me he had a vasectomy).  In all his mother and father stood by him and I was the bad one.

Good luck with what choice you make.


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