(Closed) Am I wrong? I do feel guilty.

posted 6 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
4519 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

You’re not wrong. It’s not your responsibility to drag her to the gym!

If you really feel bad, though, you could offer to drive her on the condition that if she’s not ready when you stop by at xxx time, you’re going on without her. Like, she has to be ready and waiting in the driveway, and if she’s not, tough titty. 

Post # 4
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@stillme:  This is what I would do. 

Post # 5
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I used to work out with a friend, and she developed a habit of bailing on me too. Eventually I gave up on her and just stuck to my own schedule. Despite lots of promises that all her sudden “other plans” were just a one-time thing, she kept no-showing and I was working out alone for the rest of my time at that gym.

Your sis can’t expect you to do all the legwork here. She needs to find her own motivation and I think you’re right to stick to your guns.

If she lives two streets over, then she can walk to your place if she wants a ride. Give her a deadline, and if she’s not at your place by then, you leave for the gym.

And that’s really unprofessional of her to bring your personal lives into the workplace.

Post # 6
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope you’re not wrong! It’s not your responsibility to get her to the gym and motivate her, if she wants to join you, then she should have to make the effort to make sure it happens. I like @stillme’s suggestion of the condition though! Goodluck! And by the way, awesome work of you and Fiance making it a couple’s thing and being there to motivate each other!

Post # 7
3451 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@stillme:  I agree with this.

You’re not in the wrong here.

Post # 9
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

you’re not wrong at all. I agree with PPs. Call her five minutes beforehand to tell her you’re leaving and then if she’s not ready when you get there, leave. be firm!

Post # 10
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I agree with stillme, for sure. Give her a time limit, and if she’s not there, leave her. It’s not your responsibility to motivate her to go to the gym. If she wants to, she’s a grown woman, who knows how to be ready on time.

Post # 11
45 posts
  • Wedding: April 2012

@stillme:  Yup – I agree this is the way to go!

Post # 13
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would just tell her that you will call her when you wake up as her wake up call, but that she should meet you at the gym!

I used to have someone that I worked with do this to me…I would be waiting and it would bother me because if I didn’t get there on time all the elliptical’s would be in use and I never had time to spare in the morning before work!

Post # 14
581 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

By her logic, you have every right to be mad at her.  She bailed on you several times,

Don’t feel bad. it’s harsh, but you aren’t her mother, her alarm clock, or her chauffeur.


Post # 15
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I would give her one chance. Tell her you’re picking her up at 6am and she better be ready. Be there at 6am. If she isn’t ready, tell her this is why this won’t work.

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