(Closed) Am i wrong or is my mother right? you tell me bee's

posted 5 years ago in Family
  • poll: Am i wrong or is my mother wrong?
    your mother is wrong. : (220 votes)
    96 %
    you are wrong. : (9 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
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    2515 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    @HisNightOwl2014:  i think your mom is in the wrong here. if this is the 10th trip then she’s already had the mother/daughter experience with dress shopping. if you want your Mother-In-Law there, then invite her and tell your mom to suck it up.

    Post # 4
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    4524 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @calibee79:  +10

    @HisNightOwl2014:  Tell Momzilla to cool it. I think it’s a lovely gesture. I’d simply say “Mom, this is the millionth time doing this and you’ve been there every step of the way. I think it would mean alot to Mother-In-Law to be there this *once*”

    Post # 5
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    5662 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @HisNightOwl2014:  Your mom is wrong, it’s a “whoever you choose to invite” thing. Especially when she’s gone 9 times. I would have told her she can choose not to come if she wants. 

    Post # 6
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    3574 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Your mother is completely selfish and acting like a brat.  I always thinks it’s nice when a Mother-In-Law is invited to join in the shopping trips. 

    Post # 7
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    12249 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Neither of you are wrong! My Mom also would have been upset if my Mother-In-Law had come dress shopping with us! I also don’t think there’s anything wrong with wanting to invite your Future Mother-In-Law.

    But if you prize a good relationship with your Mom, I’d let this one go…

    Post # 8
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    905 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    Your mom needs to chill. It’s your dress and you cant take whomever you damn well please to shop for it. I think it’s wonderful that you want your Future Mother-In-Law there, seeing what some other ladies on the boards are dealing with. Plus, adding another set of eyes is pretty smart.

    My first shopping trip was with my mom and Future Mother-In-Law, second was with mom and dad, third was with one of my bridesmaids, and the final (successful) trip was with just my mother. She never protested adding other folks and was a bit bummed that the bridesmaid couldn’t make that last trip. 

    Post # 9
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    23 posts
    Newbee

    Bottom line – it ain’t your mom’s wedding, it’s not her “experience”, it’s yours. She’s being a brat, but she’s mom, it’s understandable jelousy. 

    I’m betting she feels threatened in some way, doesn’t want to be replaced, wants to be the one to be there when you find “The One”. Let her know that isn’t fair to you, nor is it fair to your future Mother-In-Law. After all, you’re marrying her son 🙂

    Post # 10
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    1332 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    It is your dress and your wedding, invite who you want to go dress shopping.

    Post # 11
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    2495 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think you are well within your right to invite who you want. I mean, my first dress trying on I did by myself!

    Post # 12
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    8696 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Wait….whose dress are you shopping for? Yours or your mother’s? I will give my

    answer based off which dress you are looking for.

    Post # 13
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    2440 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Oh here we go. it seems that at some point every mom starts pulling the “but I’m the mother of the bride!” Card. It’s your 10th time going. The magic is gone. This is now in the area of being a chore. Let your Mother-In-Law come along. If your mother refuses to come- she’s presumably already been there 10 times- just go without her.

    Post # 14
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    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    I don’t think either of you are wrong. 

    You want your Mother-In-Law to join you – nothing wrong there.

    Your mother wants it to be a special mother/daughter moment – nothing wrong there.

    …but, 10th time shopping and your mom still doesn’t want to budge?!  That seems a little much, IMO.  I’d probably tell my mom it’s important for me to include my Mother-In-Law and ask if she’d rather have her join the two of you (on the 10th shopping trip) or if she’d rather have you go with Future Mother-In-Law alone for an 11th trip 😉  

     

     

     

     

    Post # 15
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    384 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think your mother is totally in the wrong here, why shouldn’t your Future Mother-In-Law be included? It would be a great bonding  expierience for all of you.  I hope she changes her mind!

    Post # 16
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    2854 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    err maybe the first time she can have it to herself, but after 10 times? that’s just crazy. And what if you wanted a close girlfriend to come? I bet she’d let you do that.

    She’s viewing Future Mother-In-Law as competition or something. Just let her know that she’s the most important to you, but you’d really like to share this experience with Future Mother-In-Law, esp since she didn’t get to go with her own daughters.

    my SO only has brothers…I definitely plan on inviting his mom to come dress shopping, as she won’t get the experience otherwise! (my mom has three daughters…plenty of us to go around!)

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