Post # 1
Would you want visitors at your house after being gone 13 days and traveling 19 hrs (by airplane, w/ layovers) and being awake for 24+ hrs?
My in-laws live 3 hours away and offered to watch our dog while we go on our honeymoon(we’d drive to their house wknd before & leave him there). They said they’d bring him back the day/time we get back and stay….
FI’s Future Mother-In-Law is the one who said this. I nicely said that
A) I wouldn’t expect them to watch him that long and that I was thinking they could split it w/ my dad (meet him half way, so they’d each only have to drive 1.5 hours)
B) then I said nicely “after a long flight, layovers, etc I would want to just relax, etc”. She then walked away.
Fiance and I talked today and he said yea she’s upset. They’re going to want to know and talk all about honeymoon. And they will have watched our dog for 2 weeks and they’re driving 3 hrs.
I get his point but at the same time it’s not like we’re just coming in from New York etc…this will be a 5 hr time difference, 19 hrs of travel if no delays. I’m just going to want to shower, unwind, etc.
I said we could see them the next weekend, etc. My dad/fam lives in town and they won’t expect to see us right away. I’m very close to my dad and I think he’d do the same. Also, I’ve done this flight and long flights before…I know how exhausted I was.
Bees, input please?
Post # 2
You’ll survive a half an hour of small talk and pleasantries. It’s a small price to pay compared to boarding your dog for 2 weeks. You’re accepting a very generous favor from them and it’s not unreasonable for them to want to welcome you home. If you’re that put out, then ask if they could keep the dog for one extra night and spend some time with them the next day when they come to drop him off.
Post # 3
How long will they stay for? Perhaps they will understand if you need extra alone time or time to sleep, relax, run errands, etc. while they are visiting. When I first read the title I was going to say that no, I definitely would not want visitors, but I think your fiance is right that they are doing you a huge favor. Is there a different day they can bring the dog, so you’ll have time to catch up on sleep before they arrive?
Post # 4
I agree with PP. She is being nice by doing you a big favor. I’d apologize to her and tell her she’s more than welcome to stop by to return your dog to you.
Post # 5
FYI they want to stay the night, not just a 30 min visit.
Post # 6
You’ll have the perfect excuse to spend most of the time in bed sleeping.
They’ve watched your dog (for free, I assume) for 2 weeks and are willing to drive 3 hours to drop it off. It doesn’t seem unreasonable for them to want to unload the dog ASAP, and then spend the night after such a long drive. When people go out of their way for you, they usually expect that you will do something for them in return.
I think you should apologize and graciously host them.
Post # 7
I can see this from both sides. On the one hand, it is definitely understandable that you guys would not be up to hosting visitors the day you return from a 13 day vacation and such a long day of traveing. On the other hand, they are doing you a HUGE favor by watching your dog for 13 days. And I don’t think that either your future inlaws or your dad should have to drive 1.5 hours to do the dog exchange (especially when your in laws clearly want to get together to recap your honeymoon and spend time with you).
Can you find a compromise? Maybe, if they don’t mind watching your dog for one more day, they can come by the next day? You can tell them that you want to be more rested so you can properly host / be prepared to recap and spend time with them.
What would you do with the dog if you see them the next weekend?
Post # 8
summerbride2016: Sorry but I think you need to do it. They are watching your dog for two weeks and are willing to drop him off to you. Do you have any idea how much it would suck if you had to drive 3 hours to go get him or how much it would cost to board him for 2 weeks? Let them stay – if youre super tired, go to bed and let your husband entertain them. You’ll survive.
Post # 9
I completely get where you’re coming from. I’ve been in similar circumstances, and it’s not a treat. The last thing you want to do after traveling is essentially host his parents. You’ll be tired and drained…I think it’s perfectly reasonable to request to not have guests when you get back.
Post # 10
No you’re not wrong! I get why shes upset b/c she loves you both and she will miss you while you’re gone but at the same time I think she should understand. You’ll be home for the first time as a newly married couple you’ll want to just chill after a long trip! I think like 2 days after you get home wouldn’t be horrible you’d be all unpacked and settled back down. Just tell her nicely you’d love to see her once you get settled back in in a day or two
Post # 11
If someone had saved the $$ of us boarding our dogs over our honeymoon, I would have sung kumbaya with them around a campfire when I got home… Tired or not.
Post # 12
I’m in a similar situation and definitely won’t be picking up my dog that day (luckily we will be going to get him from my parents because it’s only a 30 minute drive and they’re doing us a favor). I even took the day after our honeymoon off because I know the jet lag will get to me and I need a day to get back into the routine of things.
So I totally understand. Unfortunately since they’re doing you a favor, I’m not sure how big a choice you have. 🙁
Mention it again about possibly taking him to your dad, that way it’s easier for everyone, and that you’d love to see them for awhile but that flight is going to destroy both of you and a houseguest doesn’t seem like the best idea that first day back.
And if she still insists, I think all you can do is thank her for watching the dog and make a joke about how you won’t be in all that awake or aware when you get back.
Post # 13
Drive to your ILs the day after you arrive to get your dog and do the honeymoon recap. Bring them a fabulous gift from wherever it is that you will have honeymooned.
Post # 14
I get why you don’t want to host them but they are watching your dog and driving 3 hours to bring him back to you so…you gotta deal with it. Although idk why they need to spend the night unless they’re not great with traveling…
OR offer to drive to pick him up (which you’re probably not going to want to do after being up for 24hrs)
Post # 15
Personally I think you are dead wrong. It will not kill you. They did you guys a HUGEEE favor and tired or not, an extra night should be nothing that you cant give them.