(Closed) Am I wrong to be mad at this bridesmaid?

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

You need to have a serious talk with this girl over the phone or in person, no texting or email. You need to reiterate for her, in no uncertain terms, the parameters of what you expect of her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man, not the Maid/Matron of Honor because, and you need to say this, someone “else” is the Maid/Matron of Honor. You understand she is excited and appreciate her help but ultimately she needs to be put in her place! If she agrees to your specific requests (showing up in the dress and shoes YOU chose, not inviting people without YOUR permission), great. If she gives you a problem, you need to ask her, “So are you saying you can’t adhere to my wishes for you as a Bridesmaid or Best Man for my wedding?” If she says that is the case, she can no longer be a Bridesmaid or Best Man and she has taken herself out of the picture rather than you having to do it for her. Good luck!

Post # 4
177 posts
Blushing bee

Wow! You are not being a bridezilla! This girl sounds a little too controlling. It’s not HER wedding. It’s nice for her to make suggestions, or offer to help, but it’s not her place to make demands. I would try to explain her boundaries to her. Good luck!

Post # 5
542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Not cool. This girl is way over stepping her bounds here. You have made it clear about how much input you’d like from her and she is clearly not getting it. That is ridiculous. I can’t believe she invited people like that. (although that just happened to me too, and I am not happy about it.) I would definitely sit her down face to face and have a talk with her. Clearly she is not understanding the situation here. Good luck!

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