- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I have been having issues with one of my bridesmaids since I got engaged. Part of me was reluctant to ask her to even be in the wedding but I did. We used to be really good friends and have known each other since grade school. We just hardly ever talk anymore. Well shortly after Fiance and I got engaged we saw her at another friends house who was having a football party. She made a point to say to me that she can’t wait to be the maid of honor. I never asked her to be maid of honor. I said we hadn’t even thought that far ahead yet. She was maid of honor in my first wedding. So a month or so later I asked her to be a bridesmaid. Since then she has been trying to take over everything. She wanted all the bridesmaids to order the shoes she picked out and have them dyed to match because that’s what she wanted. I did not want them to buy dyed shoes. Black is fine. Then she got mad because I refused to make everyone buy them. Then when I told her I wasn’t buying the jewelry for the bridesmaids she got mad and said it wouldn’t look right if things don’t match. Whatever. Then when she emails me about the dress she asked how things were going with the planning and I thought, ok she came around and is cool with stuff. I told her we were a little stressed because no one is sending in RSVP’s. She says, well people don’t normally send those in. You should only expect 60% to show up. Ummm, yea, ok! Probably not snatch!
The bachelorette party invites went out last week and she emailed me to say she got it and they were cute but wanted to know why they were mailed from out of state. I told her my maid of honor is from out of state. Then she wanted to know who all was invited and asked if this girl we went to high school with was invited or this girl the bridesmaid hangs out with was invited. I said no to both. She was like, oh, I thought they would be and said they should come. WTF! Are you kidding me! I said that I am glad she is excited about the party but I invited the ones I did for a reason and I am keeping it small. I told that I would appreciate it if she would tell them she made a mistake by inviting them. No answer to that.
I am really at a loss on what to do with this girl. She hasn’t even sent her RSVP yet. I know she is coming but I don’t know if she is bringing her husband or if he is staying home with the kids.
I am so over wedding planning. Fiance is being so awesome and supportive but he is fed up with this girl too.