(Closed) Am I wrong to be peeved?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Is he a professional photographer? jw  and also what is included in this photoshoot. 

 

Regardless of what is going down, if you’re not comfortable with it he needs to know. Is he aware of how you feel? 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

FWIW, I know when my (male) photographer does “risque” type shoots, his wife accompanies him in order to help out and also just to make everyone feel comfortable.

.. I am guessing your Fiance is a professional photog, otherwise that is a whole ‘nother can of worms…

ETA: just saw your post.  Maybe he wants a range of models or maybe he is doing this person a favor?

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s just most of his former models are utter skanks

if hes not interested then they can be dripping with honey and asking to be spanked and it shouldnt matter

my husband is a semi pro photog and has volumes taken of naked photos (think penthouse) and never so much as snaped a risque pic of me – ive never thought anything of it to be honest but if i asked him to and he said no then i understand why you are upset

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

IF he was trying to hide it from you than I would be upset , otherwise if it is what he does for a semi-living it should be fine. If you are worried about it go along to the shoot . 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SpecialSundae:

 

 I’m sorry. Although he may not want to work with you… he shouldn’t work with these girls if it bugs you…. I don’t think one photoshoot is worth the strife it would give you. Even if it’s only this one time. 

I know I certainly wouldn’t be comfortable with my man doing that, regardless of me being there or not. Guys are guys and guys are visual. Unless he is entirely desensitized to a woman’s body ( I think a guy may have to be a little flambouyant for this to be the case)…. I would be uncomfortable. 

 Yes, it’s ‘art’….but if it’s any kind of photoshoot like that, he should pick you to model. Especially if you feel awkward about other girls doing it instead. I don’t understand why he WOULDN’T want to choose you. :/ Art or not, it makes so sense in my mind. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@SpecialSundae: shoot… if he’s not even getting paid…. I would put my foot down, too! 

 He can always gain experience from photographing you or someone else … no risque shoot needed. (I work in the business too so I know where you’re coming from) It’s not just another shoot, it’s something you are uncomfortable with and he shouldn’t go ahead with it no matter what it is because of the way it makes you feel. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I think you answered your own question. You think he takes pics of unflattering angles and he doesn’t want to do what you suggest. I’m not saying what you suggest is wrong. But if he has a particular style he’s seeking or technique he wants to use or believes those angles actually do flatter you and you’re spending the time telling him otherwise? It’s not a fun environment. That and when someone is doing semi-pro work, even if they aren’t being paid, it’s to their benefit to photograph a wide variety of subjects. Maybe these chicks do seem “skanky” to you, but that probably also means they have fewer hang-ups about their appearance when they’re being shot. I know you also said that you have people you could suggest to him. Maybe instead of hiding them in your back pocket, waiting for him to come to you to ask, perhaps you could offer them to him. There’s a chance he never considered it, or if he had, he just forgot. Just put it out there. You never know, he might actually want to use them. Win-win.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@claireos: Like!

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

id be pissed too. Like you said it has nothing to do with you having to worry about him, It’s the principal. but MANY couples cant work together. sucks.

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