(Closed) Am I wrong to think…?

posted 5 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

#1 Is he the type of person to copy someone else’s idea? I’m sure he’s unique/creative enough to come up with something on his own. Every guy knows how important this moment is to a girl.

#2 Maybe he is LETTING you think it’s going to happen at the Blue Bayou so that when it DOES happen you will really be surprised.

#3 Regardless of when, where, and how he asks you, the important thing is he does! The important thing to ask yourself is “Are you getting engaged?” Heck yeah you are! And “are you freaking excited/happy/over the moon about it?” Heck yeah!

On a side note, my FI popped the question in the living room with our dogs as witness. No planning whatsoever. But we popped champagne and made it romantic. It will be a great memory and a great story no matter how it happens!

Post # 5
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385 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I tell my fiancé everything and I really don’t tip toe around him, so I would probably stop him at some point just to make sure he’s not copying someone else’s proposal. o.o;

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2018

I completely understand how you feel! I used to find really cute proposal stories online and show him the ones I liked. Then I told him what used to be my ideal proposal. But after thinking about it more I didn’t like it much anymore as it would be too public. (In a public park in the rose garden) Anyway I thought of the perfect one, but didn’t want to tell him so he would come up with a proposal idea on his own. My new perfect one was walking along the beach at sunset on our anniversary, and him stopping me and getting on one knee 🙂 Guess what he did 🙂 Well he didn’t do it at sunset like he was planning as there were heaps of kids and families running around, no private spot anywhere. So he did it after dinner, under the stars on the beach. My point is, if you just think of what your dream proposal would be and NOT tell him, that may be what he does 🙂

Post # 7
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9826 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I personally don’t think people should attempt to micromanage their own proposals.

Post # 8
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668 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@MissThespian:  Can’t wait to hear the real story! Exciting no matter what!

Post # 10
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

If you talked very animatedly and excitedly about the Blue Bayou proposal then maybe your bf took that to mean it was your ideal as well.

Just let it be at this point, let him do what he is going to do. It will be different and special (even if the place and method are exactly the same) because it is *your* proposal.

If it is exactly the same, I’d just hope the other couple would be flattered to be copied.

Post # 13
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@KatyElle:  Agreed. 

I had no preference, no ring requirements (I told him that he could have proposed with a twist tie, or nothing at all, and I meant it), and no ideal proposal in mind. A guy could decide she’s the one, spend thousands on a ring, plan an elaborate proposal, and sweep her off her feet. Or he could be sitting with his girl on the couch, watching tv in their comfy clothes, look over at her, realise she’s beautiful even in her Garfield slippers and faded sweats, and say “I love you, let’s get married” with no pre-planning. Both of those guys love that woman and want to marry her. Both of those women are engaged at the end of the day. It all works out either way. =)

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