Post # 1
I was reading Mexicangirl‘s post about her friends flaking out on her wedding, and fizicsgirl made a really good point in that thread. There have been a lot of posts around about friendships falling apart during wedding planning times, and I’ve had my own experiences with this as well and yes, IT SUCKS! However, she mentioned how during the stages of planning, amazing friends really step up and do amazing things, sometimes in quite suprising ways.
So what have people, friends and family, done to reach out to you during the time of your wedding planning that has been really incredible? What are some happy stories you have of support and encouragement during such a transitional time?
Post # 3
Hey thanks for the topic! What a great idea 🙂
I have 3 really good girl friends (who aren’t bridesmaids) but who have all stepped up to take on big tasks.
One friend decided to do a sculptural decoration for our ceremony. We were thinking about not having an arch or really any other decorations at our ceremony site, since it is such a beautiful area, but this very artistic friend looked at video of the site and conceptualized some very simple post and ribbon structures that will move organically from the reception site to the ceremony site!
She also took up the cause of my garter flasks when I got stumped by them. I am so thankful for her!
Another friend offered to schedule mani-pedis for all the girls, and also offered to help coordinate the wedding day. All of this was totally unexpected and I’m thrilled to have her participate!
Finally, a dear friend who just lost her job has a lot more time on her hands all of a sudden and wanted to contribute, so she’s coming early to the wedding to help with set up, and she has great taste in music and is helping to brainstorm the playlist.
Oh and I forgot, one of my bridesmaids had my beautiful shrug custom made as a gift to me!
I need to always always remember that I’m such a lucky girl!
Post # 4
first of all, thanks mambiki for your encouraging words on the thread i started 🙂
Despite all the sadness and a bit of loneliness i felt the day of and after the wedding, when i realized my so called friends didn’t show up, i truly enjoyed that day with my family and others friends who did make it (and of course, with my now husband).
Days before the wedding we had to deal with government’s restrictions because of the virus AH1N1. We had to change everything, and during those harsh couple of days, my cousin Edith was so supportive and incredibly creative. I was really surprised of the way she helped us in everything she could do and how much she cared for those little details i spent months doing!
Despite the fact i’ve been living 9 hours away from her for the past 6 years & that she had only seen my husband twice before the wedding, she truly care for us. And for that i’m so thankful.
Post # 5
What a great post – sometimes we only think to ask for help with negative things that are going on with our lives that we forget to talk about the positives too!
I don’t think that it’s a secret that my mom was incredibly difficult on our wedding day. I have to credit my Maid/Matron of Honor for putting up with her for all of the shower stuff. It takes a strong person to deal with my mom and just go with the flow as to not upset her. So kudos to her on that. And, both of my brothers and SIL were AMAZING the day of the wedding. They kept my mom distracted and away from me b/c they knew how much she was stressing me out. I love them to this day for that and can’t thank them enough for what they did.
Oh, and on a funny note, one of my bridesmaids and her boyfriend (now FH) spent that year’s 4th of July stuffing our invites with us! We made it into a race to see who could stuff the most by the end. My friend Diane won…she’s the master stuffer! Now that they’re getting married, we told them that we would spend the 4th of 2010 doing the same thing with them!
Post # 6
Ah, I love these stories, you guys all have awesome people helping out!
I’ve been so amazed by my Maid/Matron of Honor, she came all the way out to Seattle to help me dress shop and is constantly enthusiastic about everything. She helped me with ideas for designing invitations and when I emailed her a picture of the shoes I want to get she even asked if she could get matching ones and got the Bridesmaid or Best Man on board too so now we’ll have matching shoes. She’s just being so sweet and enthusiastic, it makes the planning really fun.
My mom has also been amazing, she and I went on a trip to Oregon to do planning and we had a great time. She also went on Weight Watchers with me so we can lose some weight for the wedding so we’re checking in w/ each other all the time. 🙂