- 4 months ago
anikaof9 : OMG ! Hit home ! that is exactly my feelings ! and I feel bad all over again hahahah. I will try to bring the talk outside of the bedroom, but YES the talks always went to me hurting him and saying horrible things…one time i told him I faked it because I was so mad…didn’t bother him too much because he’s aware I don’t orgasm unless it’s clitoral play lol but I still said it and other things and it was ugly. So I can say it’s a good chance im the reason our sex isn’t great beacuse I know when we are about to have sex his mind is on confused mode, not knowing if he’s going to please me enough and I think that just makes him say F’ it regardless she won’t be satisfied and maybe that’s why he doesn’t try sometime? And then with me although I still initiate the sex, I would have in my mind i’ m not going to be satisfied and think I don’t enjoy it just because I’m so focused on what he’s not doing. IDK it’s tough. But I think a talk out of the bedroom would work. and when i’m not mad so i’m not saying anything mean…urgh thanks for sharing !
zeebee1 : Yup! He pretty much is the only one that orgasms. I would orgasm later at night when I play with myself. I used to go to the other room, but now i just do it next to him because when he sees i’m doing it he try’s to join or he will play with himself while I play with myself…(is this silly? ) But yes pretty much just him getting off. I don’t find the sex pointless though, I do feel connected at times and sometimes it’s still really goo even though I don’t orgasm. He doesn’t use his mouth ANYWHERE, he doesn’t even care to kiss! but he uses his fingers. On the honeymoon (TMI) he was just hitting all the right spots, I could tell a difference in performance, he moaned so much etc and that made me so into it. It was the hardest I’ve ever felt him. and i think this is because we didn’t have baby in the next room and didn’t have to worry about waking her or her coming in on us, we didn’t have to worry about bills during this time we was in the middle of nowhere so i feel and know that had a huge part of it. but it’s annoying to go from that to this lol. He pretty much gets two orgasms with me. one before sex and then during sex. i’m thinking before sex maybe have him use the vibrator so we both can atleast come. IDK