(Closed) American Muslim converts….any others?

posted 7 years ago in Muslim
Post # 3
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wa alaikum assalam,

I guess there are no other converts here? I find that hard to believe… Undecided

I’m Muslim-born. If you are aiming for dawah, you can opt to have the nikah at the reception site, followed by a short speech by the imam or a prominent speaker in your community.

As far as the requirements of Islam, there are very few, so infusing any culture into a Muslim wedding is not too hard. Feel free to message me if you need any help!

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Wa alaykom lsalam,

I am too a muslim-born and my wedding is coming up soon nshAllah. I can suggest few things maybe you will like any. the weddings muslims do really depend on the people and on their culture. back home some people do the nikah and invite lots of people (300). then they have two parties one for women only with music and one for men only. Others do the reception with both men and women without dancing and alcohol but they put islamic music and they just have regular sit down dinners. So it doesnt have to be at home. Its great idea to have a venue and have not so small ceremony. 

I can suggest these islamic songs as well, if you are interested or would like to incorporate music:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Skge3Z8mJ8

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1EGNzcdbuY0

Salam,

Post # 5
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509 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Congratulations on your wedding!

I’m not Muslim (I’m Presbyterian), but I teach at a Muslim school, so I’m learning a lot about your religion. I look forward to following your wedding planning!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

I grew up in a country that was half muslim and my Fiance was raised muslim but doesn’t practice. I could ask him how to hold one and get back to you.

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Congratulations ๐Ÿ™‚

I was also born and raised in a liberal Muslim household (as was my Fi) and we are doing something close to one might consider a fusion wedding! 

We are holding both the Nikkah and the reception at a hotel. For the Nikkah, we are walking down a silent “aisle” with our two witnesses as best man/maid of honour. I’m wearing a simple and modest sari for this portion, and Fi is wearing the traditional outfit with head covered.

Our “cocktail hour” consists of non-alcoholic traditional sweet drinks and sweets. 

Then, for the reception, I am changing into a western wedding “reception” dress and doing the dinner/dance thing. Our DJ is going to play a fusion of Indian, African, and Western music. 

Hope this is helpful ๐Ÿ™‚ If you have any questions on how I’m doing any of the ceremonies etc. just ask! 

Post # 8
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Worker bee

Hey im muslim born Turkish so is my love.We are having a small ceremony with the imam with only close family and later celebrating in a hall with 300 people and with music turkish and english.Also my wedding will be mixed with men and women most people in my family have separate since I am a imams grand daughter but we will have no alchohol.You can still celebrate normaly.You should make lil booklets on each table to let guests know a lil about islam.here is a Turkish muslim wedding example couples taking turnes dancing for eachother.http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jhDzLxlkdP4&feature=related  If ur wondering why she is wearing a red belt it signifies pureness virgin etc.

Post # 11
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Worker bee

Sounds great hun hope ur day is more special than you ever imagined insallah and I wish you and your future husband a long happy and healthy life together.

Post # 12
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29 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ameen ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@ElleJae:  

Asalamulakum!  My fiance is a convert and his family was apprehensive at first… they are Orthodox.  They’ve finally come around to accepting our marriage.  We are going to have the Nikkah in a more “western style” as opposed to Pakistani style.. me walking down the aisle, flower girls & bridesmaids (all wearing Pakistani dresses though!), but then an Imam officiating the entire thing with a kutba beforehand and a very Islamic ceremony.  We hope this helps to blend both cultures without sacrificing any of the religious aspects.  A traditional Pakistani wedding has no flower girls, no bridesmaids.  Sometimes, the father accepts on the bride’s behalf.  My cousin just did this a few weeks ago at her wedding, and she grew up in America.  

My brother had his wedding much more in the sunnah of the Prophet–a small Nikkah at a masjid (your marriage has more barakah the less money is spent on it) followed by a simple lunch, then they had a large Valimah (reception) a few days later.  I suppose bringing up the “simplicity” of a wedding in the Kutba might help to teach your family about your new faith a little bit.  ๐Ÿ™‚  If you have questions or need help please feel free to ask!

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

My good friend is a Canadian convert.  She and her husband incorporated about 6 different traditions into their wedding to honour their very multiethnic backgrounds.  She is a great blogger and has one or two posts about her wedding (but would probably be happy to give you more specific details if you messaged her directly).  And if you identify as ‘liberal,’ you’ll probably like a lot of what she writes.

http://woodturtle.wordpress.com/2010/08/05/tis-the-season/#more-624

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