- 8 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
I DVR’d a show yesterday called Amish at the Altar about how Amish couples get engaged and married. It was so interesting! Basically, the couple have to be baptised and formally join the church before the church will agree to marry them, and then they spend 18 weeks “engaged” where the church monitors their behavior to make sure they’re behaving properly, and guiding them through the marriage process with pre-counseling, sort of. They “publish” the engagement a few weeks before the marriage so the community knows, and they hand deliver all the invitations. The bride traditionally wears blue, and they don’t exchange rings, just their promises.
The reception is typically held at the bride’s parents’ house. The show interviewed one couple who were engaged and his parents and the dad was talking about “English” weddings (they call the rest of America the “English” world) and how they can cost “upwards of… almost ten thousand dollars!” He said this with such awe like he couldn’t believe a wedding could be ten thousand dollars, LOL. It was cute. He said his daughter’s wedding cost around six thousand “but had a lot more to it than typical English weddings.” They also only get married on Tuesdays or Thursdays so they can use the day before and the day after to get ready/clean up without interfering with the Sabbath, and weddings are almost always in the spring or fall after the harvest when people aren’t so busy.
I just thought it was interesting how different marriage and weddings were for Amish people. Totally eye opening in light of planning my own “English” wedding.