Post # 1
I no longer drink because when I did I drank addictively, so I most likely have a skewed viewpoint of how much alcohol is a reasonable amount. So I’m looking for insight on this from people who can be more reasonable about it.
Our wedding is lunchtime. We will serve one drink per person (beer or liqueur) plus one bottle per table (of five people). In my mind this is a insanely low amount of alcohol. But our wedding reception is a lunch, not a all night party or a bender. Rationally, I think that this is an amount of alcohol that is appropriate to the type of event, but I have some type of aversion to serving low amounts of alcohol I guess. We made the decision to go with that amount both because alcohol is expensive and because we don’t WANT people to be getting drunk- its not a drunk event.
So I guess either tell me I’m being reasonable or argue why I should serve more.
Post # 2
What will happen if people order a second drink? Will the wait staff turn them down? A couple of drinks will be enough for most people but it does sound like a bit of a low amount of alcohol to offer.
Post # 3
Scarlett11 : In theory they’ll get turned down, but in reality I expect that they will be directed to the bar that they walked past on their way to our private room (or served in room on their own dime). I don’t expect a business to turn down income just to maintain a level of sobriety and I’d rather that fight not be had. So, they’ll be able to order but we won’t be providing it.
Post # 4
To clarify: a drink order will be taken, but then its buffet style so I expect that to avoid awkward interactions between waiters and guests because they won’t be coming back to the table to turn people down but servers would be easy to find and coming to the buffet to add food and non-alcoholic drinks.
Post # 5
I think for most people it would be fine – I don’t like beer or wine, only cocktails, so I likely wouldn’t drink much, if at all. And it is lunch like you said, so I have a feeling there would be less drinking. But I think a bottle of wine for 5 people ends up being not even a glass per person? So I’d add at least another bottle or two to each table. I think for the most part though, 2 bottles per table and one drink should be fine.
Post # 6
The only tacky part in my interpretation of this plan is offering the 1 drink at all. It seems a little unnecessarily awkward to either come up with a ticket system or to weirdly have people told that they can’t order their 2nd drink at this bar but go to that bar..? If you’re really wanting this to be a more lowkey, lunchtime, non-rager thing, then wine bottles on the tables is fine by itself. But I would say consider putting out 2 or 3 per table (white, red, rose?). You could still provide that much for a relatively inexpensive amount and satisfy everyone’s tolerance level.
Post # 7
I do think it’s on the low side, your wedding might be at lunch time but it’s still a celebratory event and people normal want to enjoy a few drinks. The bottle of wine per table will only give a small drink each, so two drinks total.
How long do you expect your wedding to last? It’s your choice if you don’t want to serve any more but if you are considering it I would add an extra bottle or so per table at least.
Post # 8
I think this is fine. It’s on the low side, sure, but you stated that you specifically don’t want this to be an alcohol-heavy event, and that should be your decision! If you prefer people drink lightly, this is your day and you should get to make that decision! I do sort of agree with a PP, though, that this might be an awkward way to do it, and it might be easier to just have bottles for the tables instead.
Post # 9
I would leave at least 3 bottles per table (based on the number of guests at each table). I’m not a fan of the drink ticket idea.
Post # 10
I do think its a bit low. Some people won’t drink or will just have one, for sure. I’m a very low-moderate drinker and I’d have 2 mimosas, most likely, assuming the reception will last 2+ hrs.
I like the idea a PP mentioned–either just provide wine bottles at the table OR just let people order drinks. I’d be surprised if anyone got really smashed, unless there are off-the-bandwagon alcoholics in your family (in the which case, making it dry is perfectly reasonable).
Post # 11
I mean… if there’s a cash bar, then people who want to drink more will get up and pay for it. Those who’re saying it’s “OP’s decision” how much people can/should drink are out of their minds. No, it’s not her decision how much other adults will drink, particularly if they can go up to a bar and purchase drinks themselves. It’s her decision how much she is willing to PAY for their drinks, and that’s it. If someone wants THREE glasses of wine–which wouldn’t be covered by the one drink and the one bottle–then they have every right to have that.
Yes, I do think what you’re providing isn’t much, certainly it’s not enough for three glasses of wine a person. Yes, I think you should provide more. And what if you provide red wine and people like white? Meh. Sounds like a problem. BUT if you want to justify it, then you at least know they can go up and buy their own drinks.
Post # 12
I’d probably just do a dry wedding instead and offer an interesting selection of fruit juices and maybe pitchers of virgin cocktails instead of wine on the tables.
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2016 - Wedgewood Las Vegas
Depending glass size, and bottle size, you likely won’t have enough wine for every person at the table to have a single glass of wine. This isn’t fair.
I’d up it to two bottles of wine per table, and then just offer a cash bar if you aren’t willing to provide more than one cocktail each to your guests.
Post # 14
- Wedding: November 2019 - City, State
I think the 1 drink is fine but would up it to 2 bottles of wine per table. It sounds like there will be a bar outside of your private room that non-wine drinkers can go to for another drink, so for a lunch wedding, I think that’s perfectly fine.
Post # 15
Too little even for a lunch wedding.