Amount of time between rehearsal and rehearsal dinner?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

The only gap was the time it took to drive from the venue to the restaurant. I think a gap of any more than like 15 minutes from the time it takes to drive from place to place is unreasonable. 

Post # 3
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Honey bee

I’ve been in several weddings and the only gap has been however long it took us to drive from rehearsal site to dinner site.  The rehearsal dinner is to thank your participants for taking time out of their schedule to participate and rehearse.  Don’t thank people by wasting their time.  Rework your schedule if there will be a gap. 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

No gap. Rehearsal was at 6 and dinner at 7. Church and restaurant were both downtown. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

  Don’t thank people by wasting their time.

This.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Why would you even have a gap, I mean what would you possibly be doing? We had our rehearsal, walked up the lawn and had dinner at the same venue. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper

ktrv927 :  A gap would defeat the purpose of having the dinner. The dinner is to thank people for taking extra time and energy to help ensure your special day goes smoothly. Making them use more of their precious time, especially doing something useless just to pass the time, is no way to thank them. If I had to find something to do for an hour, I’d skip it and go home. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

Well, then do it early early afternoon and do a rehearsal lunch or do your rehearsal somewhere else, like your backyard in the evening so you can move seamlessly to dinner.  Both of those options are leaps and bounds more preferable than having a gap and quite common (only 2 of 5 wedding rehearsals I’ve been a part of was actually at the venue).  Walking in a straight line isn’t that hard and you are mostly just rehearsing the timings – many people don’t even do a rehearsal or don’t do their rehearsal at their actual venue.  If you must, take 10 minutes out of your day before the ceremony just to get everyone acclimated to the actual ceremony venue if you think it is needed.

Another option is you and your Fiance can do whatever is needed at the venue to “rehearse” and then you rehearse with the others later at a different location at a more convenient time for them.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

ktrv927 :  Who’s being disrespectful? Every response so far has been perfectly reasonable and civil. If you have to have an early rehearsal, then you do an early dinner. If people aren’t hungry, they won’t order a lot, nbd. You still get to socialize and be gracious hosts and everyone gets to go home and rest up for tomorrow.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

An early afternoon rehearsal may be very inconvenient for some of your bridal party. You don’t have to rehearse at the venue, you can rehearse almost anywhere. I’ve been in a LOT of weddings–a LOT–and I’ve never experienced a gap–as PPs have stated please respect your friends’ time. Where there is a will there is a way. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee

I am in the same boat as you!  Our venue has a Friday night wedding so is making us do a late afternoon rehearsal.  We are going to use the 2 hour gap to have people check into their hotels.  All of our wedding party and family will be in town and staying at the same hotel for the weekend, and the rehearsal dinner venue is directly across the street.  I do not think it is a big deal, and is very common from what I hear.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I like the idea of a rehearsal lunch, assuming everyone will already be taking the day off. We had no gap- rehearsal at 5, dinner was at 6. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

We had an unintentional gap because we were in crisis mode when one of the groomsmen showed up and announced he failed to buy the required plaid shirt (the ONLY thing he had to buy) – our wedding party and family were pretty much calling banana republic stores (and the targets) trying to source a shirt or simitlar for a while. Everyone was understanding, but yeah it sucked. Don’t make people wait. 

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

ktrv927 :  Not endorsing a gap does not equal disrespectful.

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