Amount of time between rehearsal and rehearsal dinner?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
2104 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We had a 3 hour gap. It was unavoidable, there was another wedding that evening and they wouldn’t let us use the rehearsal space past 3. I felt bad but the alternative was a lunch, and then that required people getting into town even earlier so I don’t understand how that is more respectful of people’s times when people had a 2-3 hour drive to the venue. I wasn’t going to ask them to be there at noon for a lunch event. My dad hosted the bridal party (which was all family) at the hotel bar while I went back to my hotel room and got ready for dinner because I had rushed to the rehearsal from a nail appointment. In my case, every single person attending the rehearsal dinner was family with the exception of 3 people so there was a lot of leeway. Some people went back to their rooms, others hung out at the bar, some let their kids take naps, etc. It also helped that everything was in the same place, or darn close. The rehearsal was at the Inn where we got married. Everyone person attending the rehearsal was staying at the Inn. Dinner was a 10 min. walk from the Inn downtown, or a quick drive. If people wanted to, they could’ve headed to the down town area of town before dinner and then they would’ve been right there. I’m going to be honest with you. I couldn’t care less (and paid no attention to) what people did in the gap. They are all adults who were with family so they pretty much occupied themselves. 

Post # 17
654 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Can you have the rehearsal the Thursday before the wedding?

Post # 18
1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I’ve been in weddings where the rehearsal is in the afternoon and then everyone goes back to the hotel to dress up for dinner and dinner is later. It’s not a big deal. There have been times where I’m traveling into town and can’t make the rehearsal and just come to dinner. It’s never been a big deal. Do what works for your venues.

Post # 19
1203 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

Only gap was driving time from venue to restaurant, so 10 mins 

Post # 20
8317 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

ktrv927 :  


 Wow! I’m surprised by the level of disrespect here for a pretty straightforward question. There is  absolutely NO disrespect happening . What has  happened is this classic

OP asks a question 

Bees respond

OP, having  expected to be told whatever she planned was fine,  gets cross and calls people disrpesctful/rude/mean/ whatever…….

Post # 21
1352 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - The Lodge at Little Seneca Creek

We had a short gap (about half an hour) because my in-laws and parents had to check in to their hotels. The only people who didn’t have to make a hotel-stop were the officiant and his wife, so they just went to the restaurant and sat at the bar while they waited for us to arrive.

Post # 22
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2019 - City, State

We’re going to have to do our rehearsal when the museum is open, so at 3 pm the day before the wedding because it closes at 4 pm.  We can have the chapel for an hour and then will just host a very early dinner at a nearby restaurant most likely, so more like 430ish for the dinner itself.

Post # 23
1519 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

ktrv927 :  Yep, we had a large gap. My venue refused to commit to a rehearsal time because they were hoping to book a Friday evening wedding. We opted to schedule a morning-ish rehearsal (around 11am). It allowed some people to drive in from out of town, though most were already in town. We also didn’t hate this idea because DH’s grandmother is elderly and had flown in from out of state to be here, so it would give her an opportunity to rest before dinner. We had dinner at 6, I believe.


What did guests do? Whatever they pleased. We knew that this was an issue early on – our wedding venue was in the country, but it was very close to an extremely fun and walkable city. So we blocked a hotel in said city and the rehearsal dinner was within walking distance from it. My bridal party and I went and grabbed a snack and then got our nails done (also walking distance from the hotel). I then took care of some last minute things and got my hair done for the dinner. I think my bridesmaids slept / hung out with their families and got ready. My Darling Husband had lunch with his family and out of town guests, and also took care of some errands.


We also were extremely vocal with our wedding party about this issue/concern as soon as we knew about it. We made an executive decision early enough so people could still make travel plans. We knew it was out of our hands, and there was a chance that the evening would end up free and we could have a late afternoon rehearsal (of course, a wedding was never scheduled and we could have done this), but we didn’t want to tell everyone at the last minute. It ultimately worked out just fine and the only complainer we had was Mother-In-Law because Brother-In-Law had a hard time getting a flight at a decent time. Read: Brother-In-Law and his Girlfriend did not complain and were extremely awesome lol. 

Post # 24
1519 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

LOL I should add that the bride getting married the day after me scheduled her rehearsal offsite during my wedding. This was a problem because my DOC’s assistant was her DOC (and my DOC was *her* assistant), so she put my DOC in a tough spot. That’s a whole other story though.

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