(Closed) Amount to give Priest

posted 10 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Our preacher came right out and said that he usually gets/requests $300 (which seems like a lot to me, but I wanted a good preacher, so it was fine) I’d always heard ~ $150 before, and alot of preachers will just request that you make a donation to the church. 

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2008

We plan on giving the church 100-200 dollars as well as a gift for the priest to use: alcohol or cigars that he might really like. It really depends though on how much you can afford. The priest doesnt get to keep the money it goes to the church, so you might want to think of another gift to give as well. There is no set amount that you should give though, but I wish there was!

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

At our catholic church, the donation to the priest and to the church are seperate, implying that our priest does get to keep the money. (I believe Protestant churches are structured very differently, so the amounts may not be comparable.) At our church, we were told $100 is customary, but it is really up to us. We are giving $150 each to the priest and to the church, maybe a little more if we can afford it.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

I would think anywhere from $100 – 200 would be appropriate. I’m not sure if there is any type of customs for Catholic priests, but most honorariums start at $100. I would say that that is sufficient.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Ask the parish secretary.  They’ll help you out.    They’ll know how much to give and what the priest likes.  My former boss (a priest) charged around $200.  But a gift is always nice.  He LOVED car wash gift certificates because he hated washing his car.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2007 - The Wellington House in Fayetteville, NY

I would go with about $100, if you can afford it. 

And just and FYI since many people seem to be confused about this fact….  Most priests CAN actually keep the money for themselves, unless they have taken a vow of poverty.

Normally only priests in specific religious orders take a poverty vow, and then they are supported by their order.  Diocesean/parish preists do not have to take a vow of poverty and they do get their own money. 

Parish preists are actually paid a salary (though it’s very low on average) and usually get a benefits package too.  Most parishes will also provide a living quarters and vehicle to the priest, but not always if it’s a smaller church or something. 

Hope This Helps 🙂

~ Mrs. Radish 

 

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Our officiant (a retired pastor) normally charges $150; we just asked his wife, and she told us.  She also told us that while people sometimes give more, it screws up their taxes if they make too much money(!) since they are collecting social security.  He is also doing all our premarital counseling, so we will probably get them a nice gift as well.  We were thinking about maybe a gift certificate for a nice restaurant, as they are on a fixed income and maybe don’t get out as much as they would like.

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Most clergy I know (Anglicans, if that matters) get $150-200.  I know of one who refuses money for weddings, etc (he just turns it over to the church) and a few in very rural areas who probably get more like $100-150. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow, you all are very lucky not be getting married in Philadelphia.  I did not find one catholic church that did not have a required amount to use the church.  The range is from $800 to $1200 and some even ask you ask the priest from your home parrish to come and perform the ceremony. 

This does not include flower arrangements that most of the churches also ask you to leave for that weekends services.

Post # 14
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Newbee

ynichole,

It depends if you are a member of the parish or not. Parish members generally do not pay to use their own Catholic church under the assumption they are tithing to the church regularly. However, even members are expected to the compensate the priest performing the ceremony for their time and efforts. At our church non-members have to pay to rent the church, just as you would a hotel or other venue. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

The fee is the same for members and non-members at most of the churches here in Philadelphia.  Usually memebers get first choice of date and time and there is sometimes a slightly lower fee, but I’ve only seen it to be 10 or 20% less.

Post # 16
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2008

ynichole, I believe the question is about how much to give the priest and not how much the church charges. I’m getting married in a church, and they only request a donation (of about $200) based on use of the space, candles, clean-up afterwards, rehearsal, etc. The organist is an additional $225, and the honorarium to the priest is about $200. It just depends how it is structured. My church where I live charges $1000 (it is significantly larger) but that covers the organist, etc.

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