Post # 1
I am so excited I can barely type.
Backround: SO and I have only been dating 7 months. I am 4 years older and my biological clock is ticking. I’ll be 33 in a few months. SO had repeatedly told me that he does not want kids until he’s out of graduate school, which will be exactly 3 years from now in 2014/2015. I will be pushing 36 by then. This has been a huge weight on my shoulders for a while, but I knew Icouldn’t force him to have a child if he’s not ready.
SO randomly tells me today that he decided he will be ready to start trying for a child in a year. A YEAR???????? We aren’t even engaged!! He decided he’s almost 30 and it’s just the right time for him. He even said he’s worried about my fertility and doesn’t want to “make me wait”. OMG! A man who gets it!!
Not only is this exciting as hell, but he’s not even saying “I love you” to me yet. He’s never told me I’m “the one”. None of that. He just says he “hopes” that I’m the one. So I was no where near expecting this from him!!!
I just blankly stared at him, trying not to collapse with excitement. So I jokingly said, “your parents would love you having a kid out of wedlock!” and he said “well no, the engagement would have to come before that”.
Holy crap! I can’t believe I have a timeline! I always felt I was not a true waiting bee because most/all of the bees on here know that their SO wants to marry them, but it’s a matter of time when they get their proposal. For me, it was always an “if” situation. Now it’s a “when” situation!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
Wahoo on getting a timeline!
I’m not waiting anymore, but I voted that waiting WAS hard for me, but it was just as much about my “biological” clock as it was about my parents being around for my children. They are older (nearly 70), not in the best of health, and I just turned 30 last week. So yeah, I wanted things to happen sooner than later, but mostly because I really want them to be involved in my childrens’ lives. 🙂
Post # 4
I’m 24 and my guy is 30. Ironically, it’s his biological clock that is ticking.;)
Post # 5
Yes!!! I’m almost 30 (next month) & he is only 24! We want kids, but we aren’trevenue engaged! Grrrr.
Post # 6
@JuniperSage: I sooooo get what you mean! I don’t mean to sound all baby-factoryish, but when my last relationship broke up, I was 31. I kept thinking if it takes another year to find someone, then 2 years of dating to tie the knot (as long as he’s not a commitment-phobe like 99% of the guys I attract), I would be 35 when I marry for the first time. Yes, I have a 5 year old whom I’m SO grateful for, but I always wanted 2 kids. 35 is the magic number where you are suddenly high risk for pregnancy. Man, I hate having a uterus with an expiration date! lol. Good luck to you getting that ring you deserve!
@Juliepants: I thought of that for my SO’s parents. They are in poor health in their late 50’s. I brought up that very issue to him and he said, “well, my sister and her Fiance will probably have a kid soon, so they will experience all that regarless”. MEN!!!
Post # 7
@claireos: LOL, well… let that clock keep on ticking itself wee wee wee all the way home!
Post # 8
we’re both in our late 20s, i have a son in grade school but ive had some recent fertility issues, my Fiance has no kids so its important for me to have more in a reasonable amount of time in the future, but im not exactly in a rush either. we’re still young enough that we can try we’re both ready.
Post # 9
@claireos: I’m in the exact same situation – in fact, I’m also 24 and my SO is also 30. Lol I have to say that thank goodness that it’s his biological clock that ‘s ticking or else I’d be waiting for a much longer period of time. Haha what can I say? I’m impatient
Post # 10
My biological clock isn’t ticking, because SO & I are still in our very early twenties and don’t want kids for another 7+ years. However, if this was ten years in the future I’m sure I’d be hearing “tick tock tick tock”.
Post # 11
we’re both in our early 20’s, so there’s not really any rush in terms of our biological clocks, but because i’m the oldest child and he’s the youngest, our parents ended up being a decade apart in age. i’m a bit worried that if he were to wait too long to have kids, his parents might not have the chance of knowing them. they’re both in great shape at the moment, and SO is young so he still has some time to think about all that. plus, i don’t think his parents have ever pestered him about grandkids.
so really, there’s no rush. i just get impatient sometimes.
Post # 12
@laceywings: My SO and I are almost 12 years apart, but our mums are 2 years apart, mine was 37 when I was born, 39 for my brothers (twins). Werid how things are.
@Mrs. Harmony: So excited for your timeline. Yay for you! 🙂
Post # 13
Yay for timelines, very exciting and now you can feel like all that waiting will be worth it 🙂
Post # 14
@claireos: I’m in the same situation. I’m 24 and SO is 33. He’s the one with the clock ticking! I worry more about his clock than mine!
Post # 15
That’s great news. Before I was engaged I felt the same way. Always calulating if I get married this date and then I can become pregnant this date. I used to drive myself crazy. Now I know the real dates I have peace of mind. I’m getting married at 32 and hopefully will have my first child at 33.