(Closed) An appetizer reception with dancing?

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I have not done this, but I love the idea.  I feel like that style is up and coming.  I guess I would just suggest to make sure there is enough food if it is over the dinner hour.  But if you start the apps around 7:30ish, dancing at 8 or 8:30, I would think most people would eat something by then.  Just make sure to clearly mark it’s “hor d’veoures” or “Appetizers” on the invitation. 🙂

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We are. We’re just having a cocktail party, with hors d’oeuvres and bar, and dancing. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I think the time your wedding starts is key to this. If you start too early people will expect enough apps to be considered a meal. I definately think that appetizer receptions are awesome as long as guests know what to expect.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@MissCT:  That’s what Mr.Nerdy and I are doing: Mashpotato bar, Pad Thai bar, chicken skewers, mini grill cheese and tomato soup shooters, pork sliders, and a whole host of other apps + small bite dessert buffet, cake buffet instead of traditional wedding cake, and rootbeer floats (with a candy buffet as favors). We figure that people should be able to fill up nicely on our menu. Plus, we saved money on servers, and it’s more fun than a traditional buffet (all in $5000 for 150 people- including gratuity).

This way, as soon as the reception opens, it’ll be a cocktail party, and dancing can start- we will be introduced, cut the cake, move to the first dance, and then invite parents/grandparents to join us. 

We opted for a ‘party’ vibe though, so it will work well for us- the band is a local bluegrass band, so the vibe should be energetic.

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

@MissCT:  We’re invited to an app and dancing reception this weekend. They are not serving cocktails. My husband has been complaining about this wedding since we got the invite.  He is now refusing to go, which means I have to un-rsvp. I’m totally embarassed. 

Why am I telling you this? Because there are things this bride did wrong.

1) You can have an apps reception, but you should supply some type of liquor even if it’s a cash bar (the bride mentioned is not doing anything)

2) She’s starting her recpetion at 6pm. Well when are we suppose to eat dinner if you aren’t feeding us dinner?

3) She is already married, they eloped 2 months ago, but sent the invite as “formal attire”. She needed to understand that this type of reception she is throwing is more casual and the attire should match. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@MissCT:   Well, we’re pretty non-traditional. The whole wedding is in one place, at our favorite restaurant, and is all cocktail party, but with a short ceremony part-way through. Seriously.

We’ll have people gathering beginning at 7. (We’re advising them via website and word of mouth that this is not dinner, and my parents will have a hospitality suite at the hotel with sandwiches and other refreshments all afternoon, so if they don’t want to have to go buy a light meal in late afternoon, they can go to that). Fiance and I will greet everyone at the door of the restaurant as they arrive. We’ll have the bar open and one of the hors d’oeuvres being passed. That’s sort of a mingle hour. At 8, the DJ will stop the background music and let everyone know to gather where they can see the fireplace, and Fiance and I will stand at the fireplace with the pastor and do a short ceremony. After that’s done, the DJ will turn the music up and start the dancing! I want the family to gather outside on the patio for one big picture of both families, and then we’re all on our own to dance and mingle and enjoy our guests. Fiance and I plan to leave somewhere around 10:30 or so, but the restaurant says they’re happy to keep serving until it runs out, so our guests can stay pretty much as long as they like.

This is probably not something that sounds good to most people, but it suits us, and everyone who knows us, when they hear what we’re doing, says: oh, yeah, that sounds like you guys.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are totally doing apps-finger foods and cocktails. Ceremony at 7:00  and then inside by about 7:45 for cocktails and food. We will take a few moments to shoot a handful of photos and start off dancing by 8:15 I hope. We are having a selection of hot and cold apps, fancy finger sandwiches, imported cheeses, crudities and a dessert station with a chocolate fountain and fresh fruit, and we will have a small cutting cake and a tons of cupcakes and other assorted desserts. Lots of food, lots of cocktails but no formal sit down dinner. We are older and this is my 2nd time so this just feel like it suits us better than the big formal dinner and dance. I think it will give us time to mingle and thank everyone for coming. It will be about 90 people total. The invite will clearly say it is a cocktail reception for people know to have a larger meal before coming if they so choose.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I think I would think anything before 7 would include a meal. Any earlier and people will have to leave early to get something to eat. I think putting it on the invitation like@Rrabbetsgirl:  did would be good too.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree with the PPs. If you start it late enough & provide alcohol, it’s totally doable & would actually be really fun!

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