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Yes, waiting sucks. And I have broken down perhaps more times than I wanted to. Me and my Boyfriend or Best Friend have dated for 2.5 years and I am just fed up being in this realm of uncertainty. Things can change any time and I really wanted this relationship to be a success. I’m approaching 30 and it’s getting really hard to feel happy for many of my friends who are getting engaged. It’s like there’s an engagement news every other day on Facebook. I cry looking at the pictures of those shiny engagement rings on other women’s fingers. And I feel like I might be getting depressed by waiting… Came across this article accidentally on the web and reading it actually helped. Made me feel better and I have been feeling like shit for the last month, crying almost every day. This article takes on Christian view on the topic of waiting. Although I’m a hardcore Buddhist, this article put me into perspective into perhaps the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do – which is to wait.
My favourite line from the article:
“Often when it seems nothing is happening is when everything is happening behind the scenes. You just can’t see it.”
Hope this article helped you and I’m not affliated with the website or the author. Just a waiting bee looking for light and hope in her future.
This topic was modified 4 years, 1 month ago by missbb86.
Post # 2
missbb86: I could only get the link to work on my cellphone for some reason! Thanks for sharing; a few too many religious references for me but an interesting read none the less.
Fellow 86’er bee here… just waiting… and… waiting…
Post # 3
You sound just like me, girl! Are you me?! Haha. Been with my bf for 2.5 years too and these past several months…especially lately, I too feel like I’ve become depressed to an extent over waiting. I’m gonna read the article and let you know what I think!
Post # 4
That was a great article and so true. Maybe we are innocent to the transformation our men are going thru before they propose. And maybe when we post on this site we are grueling in our despair …haha. good read.
Post # 5
- Wedding: December 2017 - Friendship Plaza
hrtsnstrs: “.. innocent to the transformation our men are going through before they propose..” … is SO well put and true, I think! Time is relative, and I think it goes by very differently for each person.
It feels like it’s been “forever” since he bought the ring. It’s been about six months. Which… isn’t terrible, considering he also wanted to wait until it was paid off. It’s not until it’s been a year that I will say something (because, wth, right?) but for now, he’s assured me he needs no pressuring and it’s coming. While *I* may be there in my mind, we can’t really know what’s going on in theirs, even when we know they love us and want to be with us.
I read the article and found it really good. It also echoed sentiments that my sister shared with me, about the virtues of waiting and trust/faith in your fella. There’s a lot of growth in the trust/faith piece that I think is worthwhile and part of the wait. (And hopefully worth the wait, right?)