(Closed) an engagement with out a proposal or ring

posted 8 years ago in Proposals
Post # 3
123 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I didn’t want a ring or engagement either.  We didn;t do anything, we booked a venue for our wedding and announced our wedding date, save the date type of thing.   i’ll have a bridal shower and a wedding.

Post # 4
49 posts
  • Wedding: April 2011

Congratulations! Our engagement was quite similar – we’d always talked about getting married once we finished school, and we kept getting closer and closer… eventually we were like “Well, guess we should get on that whole wedding thing, eh?” We told our families and started planning, and that was that. We eventually bought me a ring (and him a sword), but we designed it together and I sourced the sapphire for it.

We’re happy as larks, and the whole making-a-decision-together-to-get-married was really important to me, as opposed to waiting around for him to decide to propose – to each their own, absolutely, but coming to that mutual decision as partners was something the feminist in me felt really strongly about. Of course, there were several members of my family and most of my girlfriends who seemed to pity me for having no grand engagement story, and a *blue* rock on my hand (heavens, you’d think I ‘d grown a second head or something!), but I think that each couple should do what’s right for them.

We don’t really have an engagement story for people – it was a mutual decision we made after lots of meaningful discussions – but that is actually really special to me (doesn’t get the “Awww!” response from people, though).

If you guys want to have a nice dinner or maybe a weekend getaway for yourselves, do it to celebrate for yourselves; don’t feel as though you have to have a special story to make your engagement special!

Post # 5
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you guys should take a special trip together, to mark the engagement.  Or, you can have a lil engagement party.  That way everyone will know and they’ll be able to celebrate it with you.  It doesn’t have to be formal or on a grand scale, just something for your closest peeps.  That’s what I’d do if I could go back in time!

Post # 6
2362 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

Congrats – I think your decision makes it official 😉  You can definitely mark it by having a fancy dinner (or something special that is your style) but I think it’s sweet this way too – now you can spread the word!

Post # 7
2066 posts
Buzzing bee

Congrats!  I like the idea of taking a trip or having a fancy dinner or doing something special to mark the occasion. 

Post # 8
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010


I think its great! My Fiance and I had talked about it and knew we wanted to be married and spontaneiously he asked one morning, no ring, just us. and it was, well a little awkward deciding what to tell people. Our friends/family just didn’t get that we could be engaged without it. I even had one of my best friends say ”well you’re not really engaged.” – hah pretty sure deciding to get married is being engaged. (at least for us it was)

So… Fiance ended up reproposing to me (to make it “official”) with a borrowed family ring (we were about to close on a house) – so I had something to wear, and we had story to tell and something to share with everyone. He reproposed AGAIN haha with my “forever” ring we picked out a month or so later. – The first proposal was still my favorite because it was for us.

My advice – if it makes it easier or feels more official, wear something on your finger hah at least I needed that! even if its just a simple cheapo ring. – Our non-ring proposal story isn’t typical but it was ours 🙂


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