Post # 1
My fiancé and I are getting married in June and I am on the verge of a panic attack. We originally had a maid of honor, a best man and 7 bridesmaids and groomsmen on each side. We’ve already had 8 members of our parties drop out for various reasons so we added other people. Today we found out his best friend (another one of the groomsmen) is dropping because he’s moving across the country. Now we have 7 in the bridal party and only 6 groomsmen and so far everyone who we asked to take his place told us no. I’ve been on the verge of a panic attack because I am super anal about symmetry and I refuse to have them walk down the aisle alone after the ceremony ends. Not to mention how tacky they’ll look in pictures and we’re doing a bridal party dance. I’m at the point where I would MUCH rather have a stranger fill the spot than leave it empty. Not to mention I already printed the ceremony programs. Is there a nice way to ask a bridesmaid to drop out?
Post # 2
Until i joined the bee I never heard of same number of BMs/groomsmen. Have who you love and who can do it. This is one of those ‘bride going loopy’ moments. Deep breath.
Post # 3
It sounds like it would go over better to have a stranger join the groomsmen rather than ask a bridesmaid to drop out. Is there no one else who can be added to the men?
Post # 4
Is this real ? Do you really have that many people who you are that close to? So that when EIGHT people drop out you find another 8!?! Wtf
We are having 4 groomsmen and 3 bridesmaids. No problem. It won’t look stupid OR TACKY. We just want our best friends. I’m not picking another bridesmaid just to even numbers up, I want all the people I love standing up there with me.
You want to ask someone to drop out ? Go for it. You probably will anyway. You sound like a delight
Post # 5
Of COURSE they said no, they would only be stand ins to make up the numbers!
I can be pretty anal about symmetry too, but get over it.
For walking back down the aisle after the ceremony (and before if the bridesmaids are walking with the groomsmen then too) have one of the groomsmen walk with one bridesmaid on each side, so it’s not anyone walking by themselves or in an uneven looking grouping.
Post # 6
ljohnson6032: saying they’ll look tacky in pics if the numbers aren’t even, asking if you can politely request that a Bridesmaid or Best Man drop out……I wonder why those 8 individuals dropped out 🤔🙄
Good luck to you! I hope you have a pinterest perfect, symmetrical wedding day.
Post # 7
- Wedding: May 2016 - Sussex, UK
I’m now so sad that my photos will look tacky as I have a Maid/Matron of Honor and a bridesmaid and Fiance has a best man and two groomsmen lol. Thank goodness I hadn’t planned a bridal party dance….
Post # 8
I can see this thread bursting into flames..
Post # 9
- Wedding: November 2016 - Muhlhauser Barn
i would stop. take a deep breath. and breathe it out. i know this might be frustrating for you but believe me that its not the end of the world. many ppl have sides that aren’t even and though this may bother you i think you are having tunnel vision at this point and not looking at big picture here. Asking a friend to drop out would be so hurtful!
Post # 10
There is more to this story.. Why have you had so many drop out? Your friends aren’t props. Please, get over it. It’s the absolute last thing you will care about.
Post # 11
We are having 8 bridesmaids and 5 groomsmen, Talk about uneven, but do I care? No.
Post # 12
What’s tacky is using friends as replaceable props. Do not worry about this, your bridal party are your honored guests.
There is no nice way to ask her to drop out, for the sake of symmetry.
Post # 13
This sounds like something off that Bridezilla TV show. The day is supposed to be about you and your spouse coming together in front of friends and family to promise to always be with each other. Inviting strangers or alienating friends for the sake of symmetry is not only wrong it is disgusting. Take a moment to review why you are so stressed out and nit-picking about matters that have nothing to do with why you are marrying this person.
I come from a family with severe OCD but even this is extreme. My only suggestion aside from “get over it” would be to have the last groomsman walk 2 ladies down the aisle one on each side of him.
Post # 14
I’m a perfectionist and I had to get over my unequal numbers.
We decided to have them all walk down the aisle solo, but upon exit the Best Man will escort TWO BMs – on on each side.
I’m actually looking forward to it because the Best Man is my brother who’s mentally ill so he’ll have his “Look at me with the ladies” moment. It’ll be cute!
Post # 15
We are having 7 bridesmaids (no MOH) and 5 groomsmen (including a best man). It’s not the end of the world to have uneven parties. 1 luck guy can escort 2 ladies! And 7 to 6 really does NOT look uncoordinated. You can also talk to your photographer beforehand to make it look more coordinated in the pictures, if it’s really bothering you.