(Closed) An extra bridesmaid, short one groomsman

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I would get rid of the bridal party dance and just have one groomsman escort two bridesmaids.

My fiance has 5 groomsmen and I started with 4 bridesmaids and now I am down to 3 because my best friend is going to be 9 months pregnant on the day of the wedding and I gave her the option to back out because of the uncertainty of it all. I didn’t “replace” her because the person asked after the fact would feel exactly as that- a replacement.

This is a small detail and you should take a deep breath and move on. You are lucky to have that many friends to begin with.

Post # 17
1011 posts
Bumble bee

I would prefer things to be even as well, but asking someone to drop out? That is beyond rude! And then what happens if others drop out still? Just keep asking people to leave? What happens if you ask a Bridesmaid or Best Man to drop out and she does and then another one drops out? Ask a groomsman to drop out? At this rate you’d be better off posting on Facebook and bringing in a stranger… if you asked someone to drop out, those hurt feelings will last a long time… not to mention others will hear about it and may end up dropping out anyway. 

And a bridal party dance? So you’re forcing the wedding party to dance with each other? Wow… just wow. That’s a big no in my book. 

Post # 18
1450 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - St. John\'s Lutheran Church

Dude… people are dying in the Middle East. You having an uneven bridal party is a non-problem. 

Post # 19
4232 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

I originally had five and five, and by the end I had four Groomsmen and three Bridesmaid or Best Man. How we handled it was they walked down the aisle single file boy girl alternating. I was stressed too, but it surprisingly wasnt a big deal…and opened up a lot of cool photo-ops. Trust me, nobody is even going to notice.

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