(Closed) An honest insight on why weddings should be guest photography free

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Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@mrsm915:  Oh no! What happend?

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think that it’s the worst thing in the world for guests to take pictures, as long as they’re not being jerks about it and aren’t getting in the way of the photographers.  Many of the people in the pictures on the website link were just downright rude to the photographer, who was paid a lot of money to take great professional pictures!  There’s quite a few pictures at my wedding where you can clearly see my Mother-In-Law with her little camera held up taking a photo, when it was just supposed to be a pic of me and DH or me and my BMs.  Oh well, I think it’s easier to deal with a few of those pics than to have to spend your wedding day screaming “No pictures!!!” at all your beloved friends and family.

It took a while to get our pro pics, since we got married at the height of wedding season and our photographer had many other events and weddings to photograph and edit, so I was incredibly happy to get to look at pictures my guests and family took from our wedding before we got our “official” pics.

Post # 19
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Helper bee

I’m not an expert, but I got married a week ago, and I have to say that I was so absorbed in getting married that I didn’t notice a thing going on around me other than getting married. It’s evident from everyone’s photos that many people were taking pictures, too, but not to the point where it seemed distracting or weird.

It would have been less in keeping with the solemnity and tradition of our ceremony to have the officiant announce any rules about cameras than it was to allow people to enjoy the ceremony however they felt was best, be it by sitting quietly or by (also quietly) taking pictures.

We set up a site on weddingturtle.com ahead of time to get guests’ photos, and I’m so glad we did. And not a single bad shot has shown up on facebook!

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

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@Atalanta:  She turned out to be not very trustyworthy (even though she charged a fairly large amount of money and passed herself off as a professional). She told me 7 months after the wedding that all the files were corrupted and she would be unable to give us a single picture from the reception. We got a partial refund but it doesn’t make up for the fact that I don’t have a picture of myself dancing with my dad 🙁

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

We were definitely thinking of having an unplugged wedding, but mostly because we hope that our guests and family members will be actually participating in the event, not posting about it to facebook or checking their work emails, etc.  I’ll probably cash in my bridezilla card and announce that anyone who gets caught on their phone will be leading the chicken dance 🙂

Post # 22
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

For our Ceremony I will def ask my coordinator to make sure no guests are in the aisle.  Like the article said feel free to take them from your seat but do not disturb others AND have your bald head in all of my pictures LOL

Post # 23
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Bumble bee

When I first read the title of this post, I was totally, 110% AGAINST having an “unplugged” wedding. But then I read the article, and those are incredibly valid concerns. 

My Fiance and I are literally scraping together every last penny we have, to afford a photographer (and even then, only 1 out of the 10 photographers I emailed, was willing to work with our tiny budget.) I don’t want my money to go to waste because someone is flashing away with their wind-up camera from the drug store (my mom still uses those…).

The DS thing pissed me off the most. Why the hell would you let your kid bring her Nintendo DS to a WEDDING? This is one of the many reasons I’m not having kids attend my wedding. 

Post # 24
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Some of my favorite photos were guest photos.  

And, for what it’s worth, none of my photos were affected by the flash of other cameras, and there were lots of photos being taken. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Reminds me of an unfortunate incident during a cousin’s wedding ceremony. We have this aunt who is rather loud and, erm, very observant of social conduct sometimes. She had a new camera that time and she was so excited to take photos of the wedding. During processional, she moved around her seat a lot trying to get photos of the people walking down the aisle. At one point, she called one of my cousins because something was weird with her camera. Like I said, she tends to be loud sometimes so imagine a very quiet room with only some soft piano music playing and all of a sudden she bursts out calling my cousin. 

But the worst part was when the Maid/Matron of Honor was walking down. One of the photographers moved near my aunt and slightly blocked her view so she leaned into the aisle so she could continue to get photos. The aisle was lined with swags connected to posts with big round arrangements so she couldn’t really step into the aisle itself. But because she was leaning in too much, she accidentally stretched the swags and the arrangement toppled down. Luckily, the photographer who was standing near the post caught it. Well, it actually fell on him so it didn’t fall apart. Luckily also, it wasn’t the bride’s turn yet so everyone was able to fis the swags and regain composure and let the bride have her moment. 

For our wedding, we’re planning on asking the guests to refrain from taking photos or at least turn off the flash during the ceremony so as not to interfere with the official photographers. Also, we’re having a full Catholic mass so it’s a bit disrespectful for people to move around just to take photos. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee

I considered unolugged but we are only having about 20 people at our wedding, many of them are 20-something and they would literally die if we told them to unplug. At the end of the day I’ve accepted it’s the day and age we live in. i also believe most people wouldn’t post pics of the bride and groom without asking and if they do I won’t mind. I’m sure if I hated a pic of me and I asked them to take it down they would. Pictures are fun and fun for guests. I don’t want an album of posted pictures, I love candida most of all because they capture the moment. I’m not worried. But that isn’t situation.

I also find it a tad rude when people are harping incessantly to be unplugged, then after the couple posts all kinds of pics of the guests without asking…many unflattering also. It’s a control thing I believe. but that is just mho. I have chosen not to worry about that aspect.

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