(Closed) an insult to engaged couples (vent)

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Ouch.. well obviously any girl who would make those comments about her own ring doesn’t want to get engaged for the right reasons. How did she get a ring so soon anyway? Do they even know each other – obviously not if he thinks she actually wants to marry him while she’s cheating away. 

Definitely distance yourself from her – you don’t need those negative vibes around you during such a happy time in your life. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

this isnt necessarily an insult to engaged couples but all committed couples.

i have noticed so many young women that want a wedding (ie the ring, the dress the status & attention) but have very little thought to the actual marriage and long term committment. ive even started to hear the term “starter marriage” in articles – yikes

personally i would not be comfortable being friends with someone like this and i would distance myself also

 

 

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Wow…it takes all types, I suppose. I still don’t have a ring *sigh* We’re trying to save money. I don’t have high hopes for folks jumping into marriage for the wrong reasons, though — it certainly requires a kind of maturity that not everyone has at certain ages. Thanks for sharing this, it puts things in perspective.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Oh man.  You should forward her the links to Miss Star’s Young-ish Bride series…maybe she’d see that you have to be in it for a little more than a ring.  My FH and I are both “Young-ish” ourselves, but I think we’re in it for the right reasons.  I’d vent if I heard that too, JewishBride.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2007

If she’d been cheating on him for 3 out of 6 months then what kind of relationship could they expect to have?  Seriously, she isn’t thinking about anything that goes into a marriage if right now the big problem is a small diamond.  Wait till the bills start coming in.  I wouldn’t talk to this person anymore, I agree with eloping, it does give committment a bad name. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Someone save that man before he marries the beyotch! All the nice people seem to end up with the worst partners, what’s up with that? (Lucky for me a beyotch decided she liked money more than her great husband, so now I get a chance at being the wife he deserved all along 😛 ). That’s rough though. Have you told him, or thought about telling him about what his fiance is doing?

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I am going to be 30 when I get married! I don’t have the time or energy to have a “starter marriage”

Post # 12
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231 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Yeah, Engaged people who only get engaged for the title, or for the diamond annoys me too…. So bad.

One of my Fh’s friends and his Gf got engaged about half a year ago, right after they had broken up. They dated for a little while and you could tell they only got engaged, Just because. it made me so angry… Yeah, needless to say, they broke up after she swindled him into paying $800 on a townhouse, and she started dating a new guy the day after.. not kidding.

Its bad… Im only 20, and my fiance is 21, so I guess I speak for some engaged couples out there when I say not all of us are immature and actually want to get married. I completely agree with you JewishBride.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

Ugh, that is so irritating. THAT is why people don’t take us young-ish brides seriously! Grr.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

It’s wrong.  So sorry you have to be dealing with that!  I bet you wish she hadn’t told you?!  Sometimes ignorance into other people’s lives IS bliss.

And by the way – way to go for having some morals and values. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Man, I really feel sorry for her guy. I’ve seen so many engagements broken lately, and it really is discouraging to see so many people not take being engaged and married and everything seriously.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Geesh, I don’t even have my ring yet – we’re still in college, and the money’s just not there, so we’re making payments on it. I couldn’t imagine committing to someone (esp. so young) if you valued the ring more than the person! How sad. 

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