(Closed) An introduction and a moan from a newbee!!

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1459 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I despise long distance, I know some people do it well, but I am not those people. That being said, I have done it and it does get better over time. I would suggest making sure to both pay attention to each other, but also do some things for yourself to keep busy (volunteering, clubs, classes etc.).

Post # 4
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2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I am sorry, I cant even imagine what you go through when you are use to having him next to you all the time. My Darling Husband and I do everything together and just love spending time together. We work and live together and I could honestly say I dont get tired of him. If he was gone for a long period of time I would also feel just like you. I hope it gets easier and keep your eye on the price. 🙂 

Post # 7
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41 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve read but never put into practice a date night. Where you both cook the same thing at the same time or watch the same movie and text or talk over skype while you’re doing it. Meant to make you feel like you are together. I’m in a LDR but I’m lucky as my fiance is only 250 miles a way and we see each other every 2 weeks but it can still be hard. I feel for you but just keep trudging on 11 months will fly by 🙂

 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@1049daysandcounting:  I like the date night idea!

 

OP, I was in a long distance relationship with my now-DH for 6+ years (but never as far as you – max was 12 hours), and sometimes we would send each gifts – not for a holidays, just as a random surprise.  The postage would be a cost for you because it’s international, but the gifts can be free – I made him a CD of songs we liked, wrote him a list of things I liked about him, etc.  It sounds sentimental and a little cheesy, but (much to my surprise), Darling Husband still has those gifts tucked away.

I definitely recommend Skype or webcams (they didn’t have Skype for much of our relationship) – it’s amazing how seeing his face made me feel better.

My best advice – whatever you do, don’t let it make you insecure or distrustful. Let him live his life and live yours – don’t force daily phone calls or set restrictions on each other’s activities. I’ve seen that destroy so many LDRs.

 

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