(Closed) An invitation with your name only – means guest or no guest?

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 32
4 posts

The bottom line is that everyone has to cut off the guest list somewhere.  What you are doing is perfectly fine and a very common practice for many couples.

That being said it truly is a shame that your friend is acting the way she is and causing added stress that is definitely not needed.

To save your sanity and what is left of your friendship with her, you may just have to tell her that you will not discuss it with her any further. This is your decision, that’s the way it is, and if she doesn’t like it then she can stay home.

Don’t let others bring you down! There is enough stress when planning a wedding, and what she is doing isn’t right.

Good luck to you!

Post # 33
203 posts
Helper bee

My 2 cents.  Nvybaby2.  I’m sorry; but, a fiancee is not a guest and your brother in law has a right to bring his intended whether or not she was on the original guest list.  Even if she is the flavor of the month, a ring is a ring is a ring.  You can’t dispute that.

However, with regards to answering the question.  One name means 1 person.  Period.

So, let her not come is my opinion.  She’s probably jealous and trying to make your life miserable.  No real friend would do that.  She’s probably also upset that she is not going to have you to  hang out with, do hair and nails stuff, or whatever….let it go.  Tell her due to budget, or space contraints, we can’t extend the invitations to guests of our friends.  Let us know what happens.

Why do people do this to each other in the name of friendship???  With friends like that, who needs enemies.



Post # 34
203 posts
Helper bee

Ooops.  Just noted wedding was in October.  Oh well, info for the next person.  This keeps coming up and isn’t a unique problem.

Post # 35
4194 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If only my name were on the invitaiton, I would know it was only for me but I would contact the bride to ask if I could bring Fiance. BC unlessit was a family or VERY close friends wedding, I wouldn’t go without Fiance,I think that would be disrespectful.

Post # 36
117 posts
Blushing bee

I was recently invited as a single to a friends wedding. I have been with my FH for over a year and a half, and while we are not officially engaged – it’s a long drawn out story – I feel as though we are emotionally and in our plans for the future engaged for all intents and purposes.

I was sort of taken aback, I’m of the mind that my friends are mature enough to know who is an appropriate guest and who is not. I don’t think I would invite anyone without the option of a +1, having had the humiliating task of asking my friend if I can bring my SO to his wedding. I sort of felt like if he didn’t know how serious my relationship is why was I even invited to the wedding.. that kind of thing always feels like a cash grab to me.

Enough about me.. your friend is being a bit over the top.. I would just hold firm and tell her no guest, especially if this is just a random date that she’s scrounged up for the purpose of your wedding. I agree that no +guest or +1 on the invitation means come alone, but I am in the camp that everyone should be given the option. I think the cheese stands alone there though! 😛


Post # 37
12 posts

CHEAP???  You or your parents are spending a boatload of cash on this shindig.  Tell her that if she wants to pay the $15 to the caterer that you will squish an 11th chair into a table meant for 10, and she can survive another hour because she is still joined at the hip with her beloved. Oh and she can float the $15 each for every other wedding crasher that decides it’s okay because she did it.

Better yet, if she honestly cannot breathe being away from Mr. Wonderful for a few hours then the kindest thing would be for her not to be away from him at all and just stay home with him.

Over the rudeness, can ya tell? 

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