(Closed) An ode to the passive aggressive comment

posted 12 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My boss is actually VERY kind.  i love him.  But he’s just tired of T not you know..giving up bling yet. 

One very sarcastic comment I got recently (from my now x bridesmaid and friend)  "well we all know it has to be a rather small wedding.  It IS both a second wedding for both of you, so you should be able to pay for the hotel rooms for the guests imho."

Um.  She was waaaay off base and we won’t even get INTO discussing her.  I fired her as a friend last month.

Mostly everybody is great.  They all are just wondering when.

I am the one btw who moved date back.  I do not wish a fall or winter wedding and want a minimum of six months to prepare and have all together.  So I told T that.  Even if the ring lands on the hand soon, it won’t be until summer 2010. 

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Here’s a great one, I was in shock for hours afterwards.  I was headed back to my college town for a night and have long since lost touch with most of my sorority sisters, but hey, we’re sisters for life, right?  And I would do any of them a favor if they came to my town… So I sent out a few messages to see if I could crash with anyone, saving money for the wedding, yada yada, got a very gracious response and I was looking forward to catching up.  She asked a ton of wedding questions, and we talked about how funny that nobody keeps in touch anymore but we’re all friends on facebook. Anyway, as I was heading off to the event I was in town for, she says

 "Are you sure you wouldn’t be more comfortable in a hotel?" 

(Uhhhhh… what?)

And then she mumbles something about how she isn’t invited to our wedding.  We were casual friends for 2 yrs in college and then didn’t talk for 6 years.  Can anyone else feel me on how RIDICULOUS that is?!

Post # 34
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Helper bee

@Meowkers – We’ll only have one vegetarian and he’ll eat our fish option (I already asked after he said he’d be there & that we didn’t have a veggie option). He’s not a strict veggie and we chose the menue before we knew he could/would come. 🙂

Post # 35
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t blame you. I can’t imagine planning a wedding (at least while retaining sanity) for 6 months.

Another good one: As my grandmother was stepping into the beginning stages of alheizmers and found out i was engaged, she told me 13 months was too long of an engagement and I better marry him quick, because "you know what guys want, and he’ll leave you to get it elsewhere".

I’m sure after 4 years he’s was going to leave me to "get him some" LoL

Post # 36
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

These are great! I love this thread.

I was decorating our wedding arch and showing off the DIY vase project I was doing for the centrepieces and my Father-In-Law commented "Wow, I know when West Coast Groom’s sister gets married there’s no way she’ll let us get away with being so cheap about all this."  And my family paid for more of the wedding then my husband’s did!

Um….he actually meant I was a resourceful, practical gal, and he thanks his lucky stars his son married me and not someone as materialistic and selfish as his own daughter.  In my head, that’s what I heard 🙂

I couldn’t afford a band with diamonds to go with my Engagement Ring because I had to have a custom one made to fit with it (and that cost a lot in and of itself).  When I told my Future Mother-In-Law that I actually liked the way it looked anyway, because the three diamons on my Engagement Ring were substantial enough bling for my taste she interruppted me mid-sentence and said "Well, West Coast Groom can always add diamonds to the band later, it’ll be ok".

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I told my dad’s gf that Fiance and I were putting both our names on my checking account, and she says "DON’T!  I don’t want to go down that road just yet, but trust me, DON’T!"

WOW!  I have nothing to say!

 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

I didn’t have any bms or a moh because my husband and I have 6 sisters between the two of us, and I didn’t want to leave anyone out.  I thought we had explained this pretty well… until my little sister started planning her wedding.  She asked me to be a bridesmaid, which I was happy to do, until she added in, "All of my sisters and my Future Sister-In-Law will be bridesmaids.  I don’t want to leave anyone out or hurt their feelings by telling them they aren’t allowed to be in my wedding."

So now we’re all bridesmaids, except for her Maid/Matron of Honor she chose this random friend of the family that is twice her age and is super busy raising 5 kids.  How does that make us all feel included?

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

grumpybear: ah that totally makes sense.  i dont see how that’s anyone’s business then, if eveyrone will be fed and happy.

Post # 40
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

These are hilarious! What a great break from actual planning.

My Future Mother-In-Law right after we got engaged, regarding my modern, minimalist style in our house: "Oh don’t worry honey, I know you’re not much for decorating but Aunt XX & I will make sure you have something nice."

Another from Future Mother-In-Law: *rattles off list of (over-our-budget) items that we ‘need’ for the wedding* "Don’t expect me to go into debt or ask me get another job for your wedding!" (Um, I didn’t, I won’t, and I’m not doing those things either.)

My mom (to my sister) regarding my choice of a strapless wedding gown and my very large upper back tattoo: "I don’t think Jesus would want to see that. Maybe we can get her a nice cardigan."

Oh dear, sometimes I think we should have eloped.

Post # 41
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

HAHAHAHA. "I don’t think Jesus would want to see that" HAHAHAHAHA

I’m sorry i’m just busting up at my desk. It reminds me of the Scrubs episode where Lavernne takes the statue of Jesus around.  He already knows it’s there anyways, right? Oh man. *wiping tears*

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2021

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My mom (to my sister) regarding my choice of a strapless wedding gown and my very large upper back tattoo: "I don’t think Jesus would want to see that. Maybe we can get her a nice cardigan."

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LMAO…literally laughing my a$$ at this. Yes, Jesus won’t want to see it and if you get married outside, it won’t count. Where do people come up with these things and why do they think they’ll work?
Post # 43
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Seriously cracking up at Appleblossom’s:

"I don’t think Jesus would want to see that. Maybe we can get her a nice cardigan."

ROFL!!  That totally sounds like something my mother would say.  She was kinda shocked that I was having our wedding on Saturday, because that is God’s day of rest.  (We were raised Seventh Day Adventist). 

Sorry mom, but we’re going to need Sunday to recooperate from partying all night long on Saturday!!!!!

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 1969

from my future father-in-law, who up until this point had not even acknowledged that we were having a wedding (now 3 months away):

 "so, about this wedding… are you planning to involve your parents at all, or are we just supposed to show up?"

implying that we’d been leaving him out or something… HELLO, if you showed one iota of interest in anything we were doing, maybe you’d know a little more about what was going on. Grrr…

Post # 45
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Ali-O that one kills me because there’s so much implied in his question!

What does he expect you say "Actually, I’m second guessing whethere you even need to show up, so thanks for checking."

Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I am loving this topic! Keep it coming ladies!

From a former friend (who is engaged to my boyfriend’s friend, so I still have to see her), about the (non-engagement) ring my boyfriend gave me a couple of years ago:

"I was really surprised that Mr. Tea Party picked that ring for you. When [my boyfriend] described it to me, I knew it was definitely not my style at all. I’m glad you like it, though!"

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